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Is being happy all the time ... bad?

This has troubled today, so I became interested in hearing your opinions on this? Please be serious on this.
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Is being happy all the time ... bad?

I kinda feel the same way SoulRiser. You see there is an upcoming show on the TV here where I live which is going to investigate soon the psychology beneath happiness. And a little clip in the commercial you can see this celebrity saying, it must be boring to be happy all the time. So I started wondering. I still do.
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Being happy is a good thing, as long as it doesn't come at a price (e.g. conformity).

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Why would being happy all the time be bad? It sounds like if being happy all the time became bad, that would imply you aren't happy and therefore you aren't happy all the time.

I used to wonder if being happy or even artificially happy was bad, but then I experienced a variety of psychoactive chemicals and I've concluded that Brave New World is a load of shit. The world doesn't need the bad to experience the good. I think that philosophy was made up by depressed people who were trying to rationalize their emotions and their terrible life.

There's such thing as hedonic adaptation. It's why things get old after a while. Instead of playing the same video game over and over, we play new ones because the old ones get old. It's what inspires humans to seek new experiences and change the world around them.

A human utopia will be achieved when we conquer hedonic adaptation and allow ourselves to be perpetually happy.

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Would it not be considered happiness if there's only being happy? It's like what I read in a book some brain surgen wrote after he said he experienced heaven when his brain shut down.. He talked how there's the smallest traces of evil, because if there wasn't evil, there would be no good. Does that make sense?

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I don't know what is needed for me to be happy all my life.
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Yes. It means you overdosed on those happy pills.

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I wish that was as easy as Bob Marley says it is... :|
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I wonder if Bob Marley was truly happy?

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I do too.

I feel like I sometimes reach this border where I become so glad, and then look back and wish to get back onto the seek of happiness, cause when I reach the euphoria, I want pain again. WHAT A COMPLETE IDIOT AM I? hahaha, tragic laugh, it's absolutely not funny.

You had that feeling that too... ??
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I'm never happy. I'm never sad.

Which is why sometimes I get confused when people ask me if I'm happy or think I'm sad.

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You're never sad nor happy? Really?! How come?
Do you like that?
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I'm a Taoist Stoic(subconsciously and semi-consciously).

My stress level borders on the negatives and the only time I feel an emotion is when It's something I really like(such as military stuff in action, firearms, chaos which are things you don't really see everyday. I may give a visible sign of emotion. For emotions not strong enough to give any sign visible sign would be love and the "I-Swear-Your-A-Dumbass-But-I-Won't-Say-Or-Show-Anything-Except-Secretly-Get-Away-From-You-Without-Your-Knowledge".

The latter tends to happen often, since I consider my surrounding social-circle of being of a forced nature, where I'm stuck with them out of being stuck with them in the same place. They aren't really the type of people I would really be around but am because I spend 7 hours a day for 5 days a week with them, thus leaving me no real choice. Why do I personally continue it rather than resist? Because it's logical as the benefits at the moment outweigh the harm. Of course When I'm not near them, I rarely bother to communicate with them, even now as I've been overseas ,and still will be for a while more, for about 3 weeks and the only people I've spoken with are my parents.

My idea: If I have no reason to contact you, socializing doesn't count, then I probably won't. You'll have to contact me... )

I think the way I am somehow makes me invisible to people. It's pretty awesome, in my opinion. I once sat in a room with a group of people(and I'm a little big in weight(a bit fat. Not enough to be of any health harm or physical detriment) and size(genetics has made me big-boned) who knew me, yet didn't even realize I was there(considering the fact that most of them saw me enter and I was literally sitting right in front of them).

It also seems to bother people since I'm the type that sneakily appears out of nowhere and frightens you(Not my fault and not on purpose, It just happens. How do you explain someone my size being unnoticeable Razz )

So simplest: I was greatly influenced by Taoism and Stoicism and now just naturally don't really feel much. It's not a problem and I'm totally fine with it but my nature is difficult for most people to understand, and some misinterpret things(they assume I don't speak because I'm shy, but I don't speak because If I don't have anything to say, then nothing will be said. Or my lack of emotion is interpreted as boredom or disinterest but in fact it's just me not giving any physical sign of what my mind is thinking. I may like that building in my mind, or be enjoying the event in my mind, but you won't see me cheering or laughing or saying "WOW!". The most extent I'll go to, with some goading, will be a curt smile and a nod of my head).

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(03-14-2013 04:58 AM)brainiac3397 Wrote:  I'm a Taoist Stoic(subconsciously and semi-consciously).

My stress level borders on the negatives and the only time I feel an emotion is when It's something I really like(such as military stuff in action, firearms, chaos which are things you don't really see everyday. I may give a visible sign of emotion. For emotions not strong enough to give any sign visible sign would be love and the "I-Swear-Your-A-Dumbass-But-I-Won't-Say-Or-Show-Anything-Except-Secretly-Get-Away-From-You-Without-Your-Knowledge".

The latter tends to happen often, since I consider my surrounding social-circle of being of a forced nature, where I'm stuck with them out of being stuck with them in the same place. They aren't really the type of people I would really be around but am because I spend 7 hours a day for 5 days a week with them, thus leaving me no real choice. Why do I personally continue it rather than resist? Because it's logical as the benefits at the moment outweigh the harm. Of course When I'm not near them, I rarely bother to communicate with them, even now as I've been overseas ,and still will be for a while more, for about 3 weeks and the only people I've spoken with are my parents.

My idea: If I have no reason to contact you, socializing doesn't count, then I probably won't. You'll have to contact me... )

I think the way I am somehow makes me invisible to people. It's pretty awesome, in my opinion. I once sat in a room with a group of people(and I'm a little big in weight(a bit fat. Not enough to be of any health harm or physical detriment) and size(genetics has made me big-boned) who knew me, yet didn't even realize I was there(considering the fact that most of them saw me enter and I was literally sitting right in front of them).

It also seems to bother people since I'm the type that sneakily appears out of nowhere and frightens you(Not my fault and not on purpose, It just happens. How do you explain someone my size being unnoticeable Razz )

So simplest: I was greatly influenced by Taoism and Stoicism and now just naturally don't really feel much. It's not a problem and I'm totally fine with it but my nature is difficult for most people to understand, and some misinterpret things(they assume I don't speak because I'm shy, but I don't speak because If I don't have anything to say, then nothing will be said. Or my lack of emotion is interpreted as boredom or disinterest but in fact it's just me not giving any physical sign of what my mind is thinking. I may like that building in my mind, or be enjoying the event in my mind, but you won't see me cheering or laughing or saying "WOW!". The most extent I'll go to, with some goading, will be a curt smile and a nod of my head).

I see... Haven`t hear very much about Taoism nor Stoicism, but if you`re cool with it I`ve got nothing to say.
I only wish I could be happy forever.
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I learned my Taoism from Sun Tzu Biggrin
My stoicism just developed on it's own...

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You learned Taoism from a war legend. The art of war... I don't really give a shit about such ismsss stuff. I am who I am, and I guess all that shitty ism can suck away. How do you deal with emotional stuff??
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(03-09-2013 10:55 AM)DoA Wrote:  Being happy is a good thing, as long as it doesn't come at a price (e.g. conformity).
Everything comes at a price.

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Wes, that'll be $0.99 for replying to my comment.

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Dammit it. Can I put it on my tab?

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Lol'd at "dammit it".

Also, opening new tabs will not help you evade payment...unless, of course, you're stuck on TvTropes, in which case it would help you evade reality itself.

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(03-15-2013 08:21 AM)LiptomaticMate Wrote:  You learned Taoism from a war legend. The art of war... I don't really give a shit about such ismsss stuff. I am who I am, and I guess all that shitty ism can suck away. How do you deal with emotional stuff??

What emotional stuff...?

I acknowledge with logic and rationality, but I don't react with emotion. If I get into a car accident, I'm the type that'll crawl out and say "Looks like we crashed" with the most neutral face(I'd probably laugh If I realize how out-of-place that comment was. I like to laugh. Probably the one emotional thing I can't control because I just have too broad a sense of humor to not see the funny in anything)

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I do ot think being happy is bad, although there is a negative I can think of.

It is that since you are happy all the time, you never feel real pain, sadness, or stress. Which means that you would not be able to show true empathy towards friends or family who do experience this.

Other than that, just the fact that others may be jealous.

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What constitutes happy?

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(03-17-2013 01:58 AM)brainiac3397 Wrote:  What constitutes happy?
Smile

Inversely, :( constitutes sad.

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(03-15-2013 08:21 AM)LiptomaticMate Wrote:  You learned Taoism from a war legend. The art of war... I don't really give a shit about such ismsss stuff. I am who I am, and I guess all that shitty ism can suck away. How do you deal with emotional stuff??

What emotional stuff...?

I acknowledge with logic and rationality, but I don't react with emotion. If I get into a car accident, I'm the type that'll crawl out and say "Looks like we crashed" with the most neutral face(I'd probably laugh If I realize how out-of-place that comment was. I like to laugh. Probably the one emotional thing I can't control because I just have too broad a sense of humor to not see the funny in anything)

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