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LiptomaticMate
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Should a friend change if there is something you dislike?
Should a friend change if you tell them something you don't really like about them? Which they do personally to you?
What are people opinions on this.
Aren't friends supposed to accept each other as is?
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RE: Should a friend change if there is something you dislike?
YES
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Should a friend change if there is something you dislike?
Argument ?= Aren't friends supposed to accept each other as is?
I do agree with you, but ""OTHER FRIENDS"" opinions are like that one right above the upcoming word.
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RE: Should a friend change if there is something you dislike?
I was making a joke about Grease. I don't think a friend should change. Just because you don't like something about someone doesn't mean you should make them change. If you're truly their friend you'll be able to overlook it.
My best friends house is fucking disgusting because his mom is a hoarder but I put up with it because he's my friend. I'm sure there are things about me that annoy him.
That doesn't mean you can't point out their shortcomings as long as you're willing to be understanding, I know for a fact that my friend gets embarrassed as fuck about his house, but there really isn't much he can do about it. It would be entirely unfair of me to ask him to.
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Should a friend change if there is something you dislike?
I wasn't thinking by such means, I meant. That if a friend does something which you dislike TOWARDS YOURSELF, THAT MEANS TOWARDS you and you two are friends, should the friend change for you, at least in your presence?
if the thing he or she does bothers you?
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RE: Should a friend change if there is something you dislike?
Like if he's bullying you or something? Give me an example.
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Should a friend change if there is something you dislike?
You and I are good friends in real life example:
Thought Criminal: Hey LiptomaticMate!
LiptomaticMate: Hi!
Thought Criminal: What's up?
LiptomaticMate: Nothing. Special.
Thought Criminal: (Another friend arrives)....So what you've been upto lately?
LiptomaticMate: (The friend is still arriving) ...........
Thought Criminal: .............. (Friend approaching) LiptomaticMate just stares around.
LiptomaticMate: Eyy, what you say?
ThoughCriminal: I said.....
DoA: Hey folks! What up?
ThoughtCriminal: Not much.
LiptomaticMate: Ditches you and somehow evades you.
While other times the conversation between Liptomatic and ThoughtCriminal can be good, but this kinda pisses him off. Or his rudeness for that matter? You want him to being rude that way and you two are friends.
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Should a friend change if there is something you dislike?
If he's doing something specific TO you, and it bugs you, then he should stop if you ask him to. If it's just something in general that you don't like, then no, he shouldn't have to change for you.
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Should a friend change if there is something you dislike?
I was thinking TO YOU. I see, maybe that friend isn't a real friend in that case. I dont know...
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Should a friend change if there is something you dislike?
If he's hurting you and won't stop when asked to, then yeah, I'd say he's not a real friend...
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Should a friend change if there is something you dislike?
My mom once said, there aren't many real friends in this world. I wish she wasn't right? At least not in my city, and at least not within my acquaintances. This forum though seems to possess a couple of them 
What do you recommend for example? Doing with someone like that? Going in the same class and hanging around in the recesses, but still the person is a douche.
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Should a friend change if there is something you dislike?
What do you think?
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Should a friend change if there is something you dislike?
Hello? What would be the best thing to do in such a situation?
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Should a friend change if there is something you dislike?
Don't hang out with them? I'd rather be alone than with people who disrespect me that much.
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Should a friend change if there is something you dislike?
Thanks SoulRiser, what if that person freewillingly wants to be with you, but is an dumbass, and even approaches you without you asking ? What then?
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RE: Should a friend change if there is something you dislike?
What Soul said.
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Should a friend change if there is something you dislike?
So I should still try to avoid him even if the person approaches me, but is a dumbass when with me?
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Should a friend change if there is something you dislike?
So if the person approaches me, and I have told the person to stop acting towards me in a certain way which I dislike, I should try avoiding the person even if the person approaches me first?
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Should a friend change if there is something you dislike?
I need a final approval. IS this correct?
Think of it, a dumbass approaches you freewillingly, and acts like and idiot towards you, and you tell him, but he constantly approaches and wants to be with you, but is a dumbass. WHAT DO I DO?
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RE: Should a friend change if there is something you dislike?
(12-11-2012 05:50 AM)LiptomaticMate Wrote: I need a final approval. IS this correct?
Think of it, a dumbass approaches you freewillingly, and acts like and idiot towards you, and you tell him, but he constantly approaches and wants to be with you, but is a dumbass. WHAT DO I DO?
Lure him into a crowd, tell him you briefly have to use the restroom whilst in the middle of said crowd, leave him there, and don't come back.
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Should a friend change if there is something you dislike?
Basically ignore the person, I see. Thanks 
There aren't many crowds at school soooooooooooo.........
Gracias!
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Should a friend change if there is something you dislike?
Is he such a dumbass that he doesn't understand you don't want him around? There has to be some way to explain this to him. Use really simple words and talk veeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeery slooooooooooooooooooooooooooowly....
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Should a friend change if there is something you dislike?
The problem is graduallly starting to solve itself. I'm basically giving no shit to him, he is as he wants to be, but don't be towards me how I don't want you to be - towards me. So basically I don't hang around with him even when he approaches me kinda intrusively. Thanks, and talking to him has no point anymore because he simply thinks that friends have to accept each other how they are. Also he knows that both of us ahve the possibility of being right with our social philisophies. When this is true, the probability of one us knowing the correct social answer is 50/50.
I'll just avoid him.. bascially 
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Should a friend change if there is something you dislike?
Depends on your guys' relationship
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Should a friend change if there is something you dislike?
Thanks for trying to help ThorodnSorrow, but I've solved it, he and I were good friends and I liked being with him, but yeah, that's how it goes. Like I river I more forward, always keep on going forward bla bla bla bla
It doesn't really matter to me that much anymore.
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Should a friend change if there is something you dislike?
Sounds cheesy.
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Should a friend change if there is something you dislike?
What do you mean? Cheesy?
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RE: Should a friend change if there is something you dislike?
"Like a river I move forward, always keep on going forward."
Cheesy.
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Should a friend change if there is something you dislike?
YesYes 
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RE: Should a friend change if there is something you dislike?
(12-08-2012 06:04 AM)LiptomaticMate Wrote: You and I are good friends in real life example:
Thought Criminal: Hey LiptomaticMate!
LiptomaticMate: Hi!
Thought Criminal: What's up?
LiptomaticMate: Nothing. Special.
Thought Criminal: (Another friend arrives)....So what you've been upto lately?
LiptomaticMate: (The friend is still arriving) ...........
Thought Criminal: .............. (Friend approaching) LiptomaticMate just stares around.
LiptomaticMate: Eyy, what you say?
ThoughCriminal: I said.....
DoA: Hey folks! What up?
ThoughtCriminal: Not much.
LiptomaticMate: Ditches you and somehow evades you.
While other times the conversation between Liptomatic and ThoughtCriminal can be good, but this kinda pisses him off. Or his rudeness for that matter? You want him to being rude that way and you two are friends.
*sings* TURN AWAY, AND SLAM THE DOOR! *slams door in rude friend's face*
At least, that's my strategy for dealing with such people.
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