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Hey everyone, I'm a 21-year-old currently in my junior year of college. I'm sorry if the rest of this post is long-winded, but I feel like I should introduce myself:

In elementary school, I was generally lauded for being incredibly smart and always got really high standardized test scores. However, high school and on have made me feel entirely miserable. In high school, I went to a prep school in my area; I got to go for free because my mom was a 2nd grade teacher for their elementary school affiliate at the time.

Going to prep school was absolutely awful. I'm not going to generalize my high school to all prep schools, because I don't really know anything about others, but it honestly makes me really wish that I went to public school. In my opinion, all my high school did was exacerbate most of the problems that already exist in elementary school. There was an unreasonable amount of pointless busy work and an even greater attempt to indoctrinate students into a belief system. Additionally, students who did poorly were generally labeled, talked down to, and looked down upon. I recently read a quote that said something along the lines of "failing students are reminded that they are failing 5 days a week, 5 times a day" and I (and I'm guessing many of you) agree with that from experience. I got about a 2.0 in high school because I mentally and emotionally withdrew from the system. By no means do I think that public school would have a been a good place, but at least there, I have had less work to do, and I would have been with my friends who I knew from my neighborhood and my boy scout troop.

Currently, I go to a local college to which I commute. I won't get into details about my college experience yet, but I strongly wish that I did not go. With only 3 semesters remaining after this one, I will likely just suck it up and finish, but I feel that it was an incredibly poor choice to attend. There are many reasons why I feel that the supposed benefits (intrinsic and extrinsic) of going to college are a bunch of bullshit, but I'll get to that in other posts/threads. There are a few exceptions of course, if you want to be a teacher, a doctor, or some other profession that very specifically requires a degree, then you should probably go (though I think that the intrinsic value is still very limited), but without a plan, I think that going to college is a huge mistake.

Anyway, I'd love to get to meet people here. Hopefully I can both vent about frustrations and help others with their problems. To give a few more details about myself:

-I'm an Eagle Scout (though I find the experiences way more important than the rank itself) and I really love the outdoors
-I play competitive wiffle ball
- I'm a big fan of NFL football
-I'm a registered high school football official
-I'm working on inventing a trading card game that I hope to market some day
-I'm a fan of card games and board games (especially Scrabble and Monopoly)
-I love broadening my horizons and learning about as many different things as possible (though of my own choosing of course)
-I can be very opinionated on things, but ultimately don't wish to offend anyone and if you have a differing opinion, I can respect that even if what I say is occasionally worded in a forceful manner. Just tell me if you ever think that I'm directly disrespectful. I think I'm a pretty nice guy, so feel free to talk to me.
11-04-2012 07:00 AM
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Hey there, you seem interesting. Yeah, college just for the sake of college is kinda silly.

Do you like pie?

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Yeah, I feel like such an idiot for going. I'm not doing so terribly (I have about a 3.3), but I hate it to death and don't feel that it is benefiting me.

I do like pie.
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Don't be afraid to offend people, especially on here.
If you get offended easily you really don't belong here. Most people here won't care what you say as long as you have facts to back it up.

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I need you to think for you and stop being a servant
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What is your favorite movie?

Who is your favorite actor?

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If you could choose between a flying fire-breathing whale or a magic dog that poops golden potato chips, which one would it be? They are yours for as long as you live, immortal until you perish.
11-05-2012 04:33 AM
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Donnie Darko.

I don't really watch T.V. or movies that much to be honest, so I don't really know. I think Michael T. Weiss is awesome in the show "The Pretender" though.

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11-06-2012 01:53 AM
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(11-04-2012 03:47 PM)IamNoone Wrote:  Don't be afraid to offend people, especially on here.
If you get offended easily you really don't belong here. Most people here won't care what you say as long as you have facts to back it up.
That sums it up pretty damn well.
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