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Why I am scared of bad grades.
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Why I am scared of bad grades.

All right. I need to write something up. Here's one of my typical posts.

First of all I would like you to evaluate my writings, because my English teacher told me that English isn't the right language for me and I will never speak it, nor write it properly. Note: Most of the time I'm not using auto-correct.

I hate bad grades. Not because I'm ashamed to admit them. Not because I hate being in the bottom of the class grade list (witch is public by the way), I'm not even ashamed of it. Not because they show I didn't memorize random facts. The only reason why I hate bad grades, why I truly am scared of them is of course......my parents. They are totally psycho about it. I still "belong" to them. They have the right to take my stuff away, to cause mental pressure, to make feel humiliation and guilt, to limit my freedom. The start of the year was shit for me. Very bad grades. So as of today I am at the bottom of the class "grade list". So what?
I'm no good at these subjects. Yes ARE the skills I will need if I want to work as a programmer, but It's being thought by school, witch goes against the way I normally study things. I just tell them that It's school, I don't like to study their way and would too far better learning everything myself. Their answer (direct quote, translated) - "If you are unable to learn at school, then how will you be responsible enough to teach everything yourself.".
After talking with them for a while, listening to their lectures about life and crap they usually throw the ultimate shot. They say that MY bad grades make THEM look bad. First of all It's my grades, secondly NOBODY GIVES A FUCK ABOUT OTHERS GRADES. They think that I am being used as an example to others. These past couple of weeks I've been a miserable fuck I'll admit it. In their mind, I'm the one everybody bashes on and finds similarities between my bad grades and my miserableness.
Next is the argument about my future. Don't get me started on this one. All I'm going to say is that I can accumulate far more knowledge on my own rather than at school. I am sure of this. 100%.
In the end they just say to me "suck it up, we all did it". They are trying to "mold" me in a way they never were. They both are overly-stressed, mad about life and stuff. They both were the students that got all A's, read all their books and shit like that. In their view, they didn't do good enough, they want me to be better. All that I know is that I don't want to end up like them, they are the inspiration that keeps me rebelling against school. They are the main reason why I am doing something. I don't want to end up like them, unhappy, sad, forgotten the meaning of fun. Even if i fail, all I can blame is myself, I didn't do my best. Friends, be free or die trying.


DISCLAIMER : MY PARENTS ARE NOT BAD, THEY JUST TAKE GRADES TOO SERIOUSLY.
10-05-2012 02:15 AM
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Why I am scared of bad grades.

If you're not English then they will most likely try to make an example out of you. People are supposed to help and apparently school isn't really the number one place to find it unfortunately.
10-05-2012 03:22 AM
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(10-05-2012 03:22 AM)techguy Wrote:  If you're not English then they will most likely try to make an example out of you. People are supposed to help and apparently school isn't really the number one place to find it unfortunately.

Here's the thing. Everything I learn at school is at my own native language.
10-05-2012 03:46 AM
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What is your native language, anyway?

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10-05-2012 06:22 AM
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The only reason we're still in school is because of our parents.

Congratulations humanity,because you refuse to let go of the old and evolve you actually make people believe in 2012. Not only that, but you're the only species on Earth that were able to make it possible, now we get to sit until we die because we couldn't get to Mars. We have failed as a society and don't deserve our gifts to survive for this long. Maybe this is why dinosaurs are extinct, we sure aren't any better than the dirt you say we're created from. http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=pla...DvwSOFto#! Noo

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10-06-2012 07:10 AM
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Why I am scared of bad grades.

Your English is fine, it's totally understandable, only the odd typo and wrong word here and there, but it's not a big deal. You already write it properly enough. I mean, I've seen people whose native language is English do much worse... so. lol.

And yeah. Good luck with the parents. That sounds pretty stressful...

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RE: Why I am scared of bad grades.

Ugh, the kind of parents who got all A's as a kid suck. When my "mom" was obsessed with grades, it really sucked ass. Your englisg is fine, you hae less typos then I do, and english is my native language. School sucks, I agree woth being free or dieing trying.
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(10-05-2012 06:22 AM)DoA Wrote:  What is your native language, anyway?

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10-06-2012 05:02 PM
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Are you in my life or something cause that sounds exactly like me!!! the moms quote and everything!!!
10-09-2012 08:41 AM
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Why I am scared of bad grades.

My mom and dad are the same thing too. Less crazy but more annoying on grades.

Congratulations humanity,because you refuse to let go of the old and evolve you actually make people believe in 2012. Not only that, but you're the only species on Earth that were able to make it possible, now we get to sit until we die because we couldn't get to Mars. We have failed as a society and don't deserve our gifts to survive for this long. Maybe this is why dinosaurs are extinct, we sure aren't any better than the dirt you say we're created from. http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=pla...DvwSOFto#! Noo

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10-09-2012 09:13 AM
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(10-09-2012 08:41 AM)doughboy Wrote:  Are you in my life or something cause that sounds exactly like me!!! the moms quote and everything!!!

Maybe you are in my life ?
10-19-2012 02:58 AM
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Getting gradesis meaningless shit used to tormenr us. And something for parents to harass us about.
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Correction:Which

A Witch is a character in stories, which flies on a broom, and can cast spells.

I am Russian, yet I speak English better than anyone in my English class, but of course, not better than my teacher.

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