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How to Always Have Something Better to Talk About Than the Weather
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How to Always Have Something Better to Talk About Than the Weather

It's pretty long, but interesting enough to finish.

http://www.raptitude.com/2009/04/how-to-...e-weather/

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RE: How to Always Have Something Better to Talk About Than the Weather

Wow, that's really relevant to me... thanks for linking.

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Thanks for the link. Very simple... just find out what people care about and get them to talk about that. I like simple. I've always sucked at starting conversations...

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Weather's nice today.

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I prefer to wait until the conversation is started by them, or to talk about what I'm thinking at that point. Fool proof system!
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The clouds are all nice and puffy, but it's not raining and the sun is still illuminating everything.

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I get irritated if I have to stat and continue a conversation.

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There might be a light sprinkling in the next county over, but the sun sure is bright. It's making the sidewalk all hot.

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"Anything you say is a liability.  Every statement makes you a target for scrutiny.  Every question you ask reveals your ignorance.  Every passion you confess opens you up to ridicule.  Better to say nothing."

This is still true for me most of the time, but I guess I just haven't learned yet. There have been times I slipped or even times when people twist my words that have haunted me for years and years.

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Anything you say is a liability to whatever you're challenging, as well. Every statement makes the people you speak against possible targets for scrutiny, too. Every question you ask prompts an answer. Every passion you confess opens you up to a greater knowledge of those who share your passions. It's better to speak than to say nothing.

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^^ I regret not being quieter, actually, not being more social. I have an ability to see everything about a person, what they think of me, what they think of others, what they think of themselves. It hurts, because I see what everyone thinks about me written on their face. I always wonder whether I should even try to make or keep any of my "freinds" or just that three or four that really like me.

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So I’d rather die for a cause than live a life that is worthless
I don’t need the circus or the day of national observance
I need you to think for you and stop being a servant
-Immortal Technique, The Martyr, The Martyr
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Yeah, quality > quantity. If someone doesn't like what you say and turns on you because of it, they weren't really a good friend anyway. Better to be alone than around people who don't appreciate you for who you really are...

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