The 'Inappropriate' Outfit That Got My Daughter Into Trouble At School

[batboy138]

Quote:Yesterday I got one of "those" phone calls that parents dread. Admittedly it was rather low on the scale of parental dread. One might reasonably say it was close to the bottom of the dreaded scale, but it was on there.

My daughter had been escorted to the front office by the principal, and was cooling her heels there until a parent could come in and sort stuff out. Her life of crime had begun.

In most junior high schools, all the students are treated like criminals -- but only some rise to the challenge. My daughter graduates from junior high in two weeks, so she is making it in just under the wire.

Having your parents called in is one of the most significant punishments that can befall a junior high student, and it prefaces all of the more severe punitive actions. When your parents are called, you are in trouble; you have done something quite wrong.

There are significant consequences to parents being called in. Our town, Tooele, is a bedroom community for most folks; the average commute to work is in excess of 30 minutes. This means that, when they're called in to school, many parents are expected to take an hour off work, and the student is expected to sit for at least one class-period in the office.

The office has large windows so that the student is on display to his or her peers throughout the interminable wait time. The bell rings and hundreds of students rush past the offender-on-display; some linger long enough to make obscene gestures. Some students might revel in the attention, but in most adolescent minds, this is cruel and unusual punishment.

What had my daughter done to deserve this punishment? Was it some valiant gesture of defiance against a fascist dehumanizing system, or was there cruelty and torture involved? I found it hard to picture her engaged (or at least getting caught) in either of these types of actions, but I was hoping for the first.

After spinning the possibilities in my mind, I was not prepared for the actual nature of her offense. She was dressed inappropriately.

I am not the best judge of "appropriate" dress for a 14-year-old girl. I try, but it is a skill I have no intention of using for very long. I tried to circumvent my need for it at all by suggesting that both my daughters wear hospital scrubs till they graduate the 12th grade, but that was apparently "not happening." I know that if I dressed myself from my younger daughter's wardrobe, it would be wildly inappropriate regardless of what I chose. Now my lack of attention had forced her into a life of crime. It is always the parent's fault.

Luckily I was working from home, so I took a camera and rushed over to the junior high school with some dungarees and a sack-like shirt for her to change into. This is a picture of her in the school's front office, and this is the apparently inappropriate outfit she was wearing.



I was shocked at my ineptitude. The outfit actually looked appropriate to me; especially given the fact that it was 86F (30C) and the AC in the junior high was not working well outside of the front office. How could I be so blind as to have missed the fact that my daughter was dressed as a harlot, and presented a danger to all the boys in the school? I read "Great Expectations" once. Just because the school might champion some Dickensian imagery does not mean they must bow to them all. What vile boy-crushing monster had my daughter become, and why couldn't I see it?

I began to think : "Luckily the school administration can look at her and see her as a provocative female," but then I thought... no... that is extremely creepy. I tried to think: "Luckily the school administration can look at her though the eyes of hormone-addled teenage boys to see her as provocative," but then I thought... no... that is weird-creepy.

Imagine sitting in a class where you knew the teacher was literally looking through your clothing to see you as a provocateur? I began wondering if transferring her to a new class in the last two weeks of school would do more harm than good.

It turns out that the principal himself had personally identified her as inappropriately dressed. He had walked up to her during lunchtime and identified her crime where nobody else could. I can't help but think that the principal's action creates an unhealthy atmosphere in his school.

What does it say to the teachers who had her in class earlier in the day, and didn't notice her inappropriate dress? What does it say to me -- the parent who maintains that her outfit was perfectly OK for school? Will my daughter and her classmates now spend more time thinking about their outfits than their schoolwork -- the real task at hand?

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/sparker/da...d%3D163657

The outfit she was wearing wasn't offensive at all. The principle's a pussy.

[FarBeyondDriven]

M... must... keep... ha... hands... off...

EDIT: The headmaster is probably quite old and traditionalist, or has a problem with the girl and/or her family. Maybe he or she's a control freak. Whatever the case, ringing up parents for this is surely embarrassing for the school. Whoever finds what she's wearing offensive in any way is an idiotic douche, come on...

[HeartofShadows]

Uncle fester needs to realize it's not the 1920s anymore. Either that or stop using islam on a dressing scale. Seen more provocatively dressed women at the super market.

[SaintVicious]

OH MY GOD I AM OFFENDED AT HER KNEE LENGTH SKIRT

[The Shadowman]

The horror of her white t-shirt!

[SoulRiser]

lolwut

[IamNoone]

(05-25-2012 08:08 AM)SoulRiser Wrote:  lolwut

mfw this article

[Miller0700]

Well the thing on her belt "does" look like a shit-stain, so I guess it's "inappropriate..."

[HeartofShadows]

(05-25-2012 08:45 AM)Derchin Wrote:  Well the thing on her belt "does" look like a shit-stain, so I guess it's "inappropriate..."

:shrugs:

Joking... right?

[Miller0700]

Yeah. But it does look like a shitstain.

[UnschoolShqiponjë]

That's what I love about highschool girls.......

[The Shadowman]

(05-25-2012 09:42 AM)UnschoolShqiponjë Wrote:  That's what I love about highschool girls.......

What, the shitstains on their clothing?

[UnschoolShqiponjë]

(05-25-2012 02:59 PM)The Shadowman Wrote:  

(05-25-2012 09:42 AM)UnschoolShqiponjë Wrote:  That's what I love about highschool girls.......

What, the shitstains on their clothing?

You FAILED me

[FarBeyondDriven]

Shitstains are quite attractive. I guess that's why I'm in love with you guys.

[gore goroth]

(05-25-2012 09:42 AM)UnschoolShqiponjë Wrote:  That's what I love about highschool girls.......

I guess that means your into some scat eh spongee???

[fish20]

I bet all the girls in that school must be in trouble then.

[UnschoolShqiponjë]

You all fail! Finish the quote asses!

[Griff_Da_Man]

WTF.

I was expecting some really short skirt/shorts but after reading the comments said something about the community being really conservative...can only imagine that principal's reaction to what the girls at my school wore.

[Kirby]

DEM LEGS

[Thought Criminal]

I'd hit it

[King Bum]

What the above two post said

[chloe0013]

WHAT THE FUCK. HOW CAN YOU GET IN TROUBLE FOR WEARING A OUTFIT LIKE THAT? SOMEONE PLEASE EXPLAIN.

[brainiac3397]

lolwat?

God bless people who still dress like that. I'd have given her a reward for not looking like she came out of some hiphop /rap music video.

[Missile]

She dresses pretty similar to many girls in my class. I really don't see what the big jizfest is over

[timf]

I agree that the thing on the belt should probably go. However if fashion is a crime, why is Ronald McDonald still on the loose.

[Chanku]

(01-31-2015 03:28 PM)chloe0013 Wrote:  WHAT THE FUCK. HOW CAN YOU GET IN TROUBLE FOR WEARING A OUTFIT LIKE THAT? SOMEONE PLEASE EXPLAIN.

You do realize this thread is over 2-years old...can you please check the date before posting?

[stevehein]

(01-31-2015 03:38 PM)brainiac3397 Wrote:  lolwat?

God bless people who still dress like that. I'd have given her a reward for not looking like she came out of some hiphop /rap music video.

ha ha i almost gave a thanks for this but decided to just give the laugh which best expressed the main feeling i had : )

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[stevehein]

(02-01-2015 04:57 AM)Chanku Wrote:  You do realize this thread is over 2-years old...can you please check the date before posting?

about this thread being old,well for me it is still highly relevant - if anything pple who control schools and those who are forced to go there are even more obsessed with unimportant things. seems to be getting steadily worse. so i say no problem in keeping it "alive". i actually am glad someone kept it alive or i may have never happened to see it. like others, i expected something a lot more provocative, let's say. but as i say that i want to add that i have been to nudist beaches and seen females naked, bare breasted and didn't feel especially provoked. and i didn't rape anyone. so basically those who are afraid of a girl's body have a serious psychological problem i'd say. if they think others can't control themselves then that would strongly suggest to me that they can't either. and thus should not be anywhere near children or teenagers or have any authority over them.

[brainiac3397]

Id like to argue that a state of full nude can sometimes not be as provacative as nearly nude. The anticipation is what makes the nudity the reward.