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Student Commits Suicide After Months Of Bullying

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Quote:Rachel Ehmke, a 13-year-old seventh grader in Mantorville, Minn., died April 29 after hanging herself at her home. The months leading up to the tragedy were a whirlwind of peer abuse instances, her parents say.

Now following Rachel's Friday funeral that was met with widespread community condolences, Rick and Mary Ehmke are speaking out against the bullying they say their daughter endured at Kasson/Mantorville Middle School and online.

Rachel's family and friends say the teen fell victim to school bullying last fall when her chewing gum was stuck to her textbooks and the word "slut" was scrawled across her gym locker, the Austin Daily Herald reports. And while she was outgoing, athletic and friendly, the same group of girls reportedly threatened Rachel and kept calling her a "prostitute," though she had never kissed a boy, according to KMSP.

Two days before Rachel's death, an anonymous text was sent to other students at the school, KARE reports.

"It was pretty explicit. Something to the effect of that Rachel was a slut and to get her to leave the Kasson-Mantorville School, forward this to everyone you know," parent Chris Flannery told the station.

But after the text was reported to authorities, it was traced to someone who wasn't a student at the school, according to Minnesota Public Radio. The district's bullying policy prohibits threats both in person and online, and promises investigations within 24 hours of any reported bullying.

Rachel reportedly pleaded with her father not to mention the bullying to school officials, for fear of worsening the situation. A note that her parents found after her death read, "I'm fine = I wish I could tell you how I really feel," alongside a picture of a broken heart, according to KMSP.

Dodge County authorities plan to meet this week to discuss possible criminal charges, the Star Tribune reports. But Rick Ehmke says the family doesn't plan to press charges against those who bullied his daughter.

"They're kids. They made some horrible decisions. If these kids would've known this would happen I'm pretty sure they never, ever would have done what they did," Rick Ehmke told Minnesota Public Radio. "Sadly enough, even those kids that know who they are will carry this bag their whole life. That's a sad thing too, it really is."

He also notes that the school should have taken heavier measures against the bullies when the taunting was first reported in the fall, adding that technology like phones and social media may have worsened an already bad situation by allowing the bully to essentially follow students home.

"Words hurt. Word can kill," mother Mary Ehmke told KARE.

Community members have planned a prayer vigil and walk in Rachel's memory for 2 p.m. May 19 at Mill Pond in Austin, Minn. The walk aims to show support for the Ehmke family and raise awareness for teen suicide and bullying.

The U.S. Department of Education has identified 16 "key components" in state bullying legislation, including a statement of scope, listing of enumerated groups, process of district policy review, definitions and reporting guidelines. Minnesota ranks last in the country with its state bullying law only covering two of the 16 components, according to an Education Department analysis of state bullying laws released in December. Nebraska ranks second-to-last by covering four of the 16 components.

Statement of scope, one of the most common components of state bullying laws, establishes where legislation applies and what conditions must exist for schools to have authority over student conduct.

According to the Education Department report, Minnesota is one of just three states -- alongside Wisconsin and Arizona -- that prohibits bullying but doesn't define that behavior. The state also doesn't provide for its districts a model bullying policy, and at a mere 37 words, its anti-bullying law is the shortest one in the country:
Each school board shall adopt a written policy prohibiting intimidation and bullying of any student. The policy shall address intimidation and bullying in all forms, including, but not limited to, electronic forms and forms involving Internet use.

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RE: Student Commits Suicide After Months Of Bullying

Trying to guilt trip us Soul Laugh

That's pretty fucked up though. In all honesty I think this is a product of all the anti-bullying campaigns. Back in the day physical abuse and overt bullying were common. Sure, it must have really sucked but when that kind of thing happens nowadays it ends up alienating the victim to the extent of suicide.
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I am losing sympathy for the parents in these situations. It is partly their fault for insisting on sending their kids to school.

Let's not forget the pussy "don't defend yourself" culture we live in.

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Quote:I am losing sympathy for the parents in these situations. It is partly their fault for insisting on sending their kids to school.

Let's not forget the pussy "don't defend yourself" culture we live in.

This verily.

Quote:Trying to guilt trip us Soul
Convenient side effect. Razz

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RE: Student Commits Suicide After Months Of Bullying

Am I the only one here who feels bad for kids like this?
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Most of us feel for them. This is just all to common. It's pretty sad when you actually think about it.
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She didn't stand up for herself too bad.
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If you don't stand up for yourself and just kill yourself I don't feel pity, cause you did nothing to change it other than bitch about it.
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(05-14-2012 09:50 AM)UnschoolShqiponjë Wrote:  Let's not forget the pussy "don't defend yourself" culture we live in.

Same. My school loves to quote Gandhi and MLK for their nonviolent practices.

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I beat up my bullies
EDIT: When you're a girl, there aren't any real bullies. Only other girls that are more popular and more ugly than you who gossip. SOOO fighting them is easy.
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RE: Student Commits Suicide After Months Of Bullying

When you force people to gather everyday against their will horrible results are unavoidable.

If you want to be a different fish, you've got to jump out of the school.


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That ^

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