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When an adult tell you to do something you do it! and respect
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When an adult tell you to do something you do it! and respect

My dad is a firm believer in the "I'm the adult, you're the child, you listen to me!" thing. Yeah, you may be an adult, but you're also a psychopathic alcoholic with abusive tendencies. He's always like "you have no rights, you're not an adult" blah blah blah. According to him i have no right to cry. When i cry he tells me to shut the fuck up and stop crying.

I'm all for respect and stuff. And when I meet someone, young or old, I'll respect them. But when they start disrespecting me then it's all downhill for them. I'm a believer in the treat others how you wish to be treated thing. I wish to be treated with respect therefore I show respect. However, you treat me with disrespect, so you must wish for disrespect and therefore you will receive disrespect. So don't start with this "I'm an adult, respect me" bullshit. You are disrespectful to me, therefore you don't deserve my respect.

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RE: When an adult tell you to do something you do it! and respect

All parents are like that.
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RE: When an adult tell you to do something you do it! and respect

Not all of them, actually. But far too many...

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RE: When an adult tell you to do something you do it! and respect

My art teacher had a sign that said respect is not a gift, you earn it. It was funny because I wouldn't call her ma'am and she said because she was a teacher and older than me I had to.

Why aren't you posting crazy shit? I was hoping with your return there would be some srs bsn SS drama.

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(02-25-2012 10:24 AM)StadiumArcadium Wrote:  Why aren't you posting crazy shit? I was hoping with your return there would be some srs bsn SS drama.

I don't have any real drama in my life recently. The worst thing happening recently s me missing my boyfriend and wanting to punch holes in walls at school because people are so fuck stupid!

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I want to know why everyone knows your name

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(02-25-2012 11:27 AM)StadiumArcadium Wrote:  I want to know why everyone knows your name

I complain, bitch and moan, lie, seek attention. Do pot, hypochondriac. blah blah blah.

seriously though, go look at a few of my older posts. You'll have a good chunk of my background

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RE: When an adult tell you to do something you do it! and respect

Respect, that's some thing.

Generally, I try to respect people until I hear them speak. I don't know how they think. I don't know their background. Who would I be to use prejudice? I am aware that there are always subconscious decisions, and that you can't turn that off. But I try to keep that to a minimum, as far as I can.

So, basically, every person has a value of respect at beginning. From time to time, I hear them speak, hear about their background, and the amount of respect I have either increases or decreases. You can earn more respect, or lose it.
And no, I don't have any respect for (most) teachers. They support a arbitrary dictatorship as their job, which was their decision. I say "most", because there are some teachers who actually try to make school as comfortable and fun for students as possible. But these are far to few.

Respect isn't the title. It is how you are treated by others or how you treat others. If people treat you nice, they respect you. If they are scumbags to you, they don't.
Somebody who thinks another lacks respect not for using the title this person thinks is appropriate surely has no idea of the whole concept.

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Too many adults demand respect of youth or their children but give none at all. Respect does not work like that. They don't want respect, they want fear and obedience. Which is why so many adults have problems with youth.

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It amazes me how badass we all would be as parents

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No thanks. Maybe as uncle or something, but having a son at my own? Speaking for now, no thanks. I don't know what the future will bring however.

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(02-26-2012 08:25 AM)aCol Wrote:  No thanks. Maybe as uncle or something, but having a son at my own? Speaking for now, no thanks. I don't know what the future will bring however.

Michael Scott from The Office Wrote:I don't get why parents are always complaining about how tough it is to raise kids. You joke around with them, you give them pizza, give them candy, you let them live their lives. They're adults for God's sake! It's not that children make me uncomfortable, but it's just why be a Dad when you could be a Fun Uncle? I've never heard of anyone rebelling against their Fun Uncle.

So... Be a Fun Uncle!

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(01-13-2012 10:37 AM)UnschoolShqiponjë Wrote:  Mike you deserve an SS medal. Here, be proud:
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Congrats for doing something I never had the balls to do.
If you have kids, save them from the bullshit you are forced to go through.
(01-25-2012 05:36 AM)UnschoolShqiponjë Wrote:  Balls of steel re-awarded. 
(02-07-2012 03:22 PM)flann Wrote:  Balls of Tungsten, now.

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(03-13-2012 08:27 PM)M3116 Wrote:  Balls of steel re-re-reawarded Nutter

(05-14-2013 03:01 PM)Prince Darkstar Wrote:  Dirtbikemike is the only guy I know of on here who won an argument with a teacher.
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RE: When an adult tell you to do something you do it! and respect

(02-25-2012 10:24 AM)Stadium Wrote:  My art teacher had a sign that said respect is not a gift, you earn it. It was funny because I wouldn't call her ma'am and she said because she was a teacher and older than me I had to.

Why aren't you posting crazy shit? I was hoping with your return there would be some srs bsn SS drama.
did you go to centerville schools cause my art teacher had that exact same sign
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People deserve respect up to the point that they don't, if that makes any sense.
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This is so old.

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with a dad like the one u are legally forced to live with it is no surprise u get depressed... hug
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(06-23-2013 10:45 AM)Lime Wrote:  People deserve respect up to the point that they don't, if that makes any sense.

i like that... can i add it to my page on respect...

http://www.eqi.org/respect.htm
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Steves website is very interesting.

Check it out if you already haven't. Smile

(Just had to write it somewhere.)
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(06-23-2013 05:52 PM)stevehein Wrote:  i like that... can i add it to my page on respect...

http://www.eqi.org/respect.htm
Sure.
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