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Leadership

What does it really mean to lead others to solve a common problem?

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RE: Leadership

Usually a leader in small groups is the first person to act and have good ideas. People associate success with that person and will follow them indefinatly
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RE: Leadership

Sorta

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RE: Leadership

Huh?

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RE: Leadership

(02-12-2012 10:04 AM)Derchin Wrote:  Huh?

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RE: Leadership

Of course.

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RE: Leadership

I would consider myself a to be good leader, But there has to be something in it for me otherwise someone else can do it.
When I get put in a position of leadership related to something I'm interested in, I become extremely enthusiastic about it, it helps to draw in those who are more on the fence about participating. I do a good job keeping whatever we are doing fun while having things running at an efficient, industrious pace if needed. I have no problem jumping in and doing stuff myself either as opposed to simply delegating things out.
It can be a hell of alot of fun but you have to catch me at the right time, in the right mood.
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RE: Leadership

Agree with TC, although I haven't found anything of interest to "lead" people who don't know it already.

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RE: Leadership

I'm a great leader brah. I'm usually the first one to take initiative, unite people together and spread the load equally.

(01-10-2012 02:15 PM)Maelstrom Wrote:  Efs, your nihilism is beautiful.
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(02-12-2012 09:20 PM)Efs Wrote:  I'm a great leader brah. I'm usually the first one to take initiative, unite people together and spread the load equally.

That just sounded...wrong...

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(02-13-2012 07:23 AM)aCol Wrote:  
(02-12-2012 09:20 PM)Efs Wrote:  I'm a great leader brah. I'm usually the first one to take initiative, unite people together and spread the load equally.

That just sounded...wrong...

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Congrats for doing something I never had the balls to do.
If you have kids, save them from the bullshit you are forced to go through.
(01-25-2012 05:36 AM)UnschoolShqiponjë Wrote:  Balls of steel re-awarded. 
(02-07-2012 03:22 PM)flann Wrote:  Balls of Tungsten, now.

I found a picture for tungsten balls
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(02-13-2012 07:30 AM)Dirtbikemike Wrote:  
(02-13-2012 07:23 AM)aCol Wrote:  
(02-12-2012 09:20 PM)Efs Wrote:  I'm a great leader brah. I'm usually the first one to take initiative, unite people together and spread the load equally.

That just sounded...wrong...

Dirty mind? Clean it up with Orbit!

A bullet is fine too.

@Topic: I don't really know - I've worked together with some friends to work against the principal and asked that one guy why I am in the team...
He said I'd be a genius at Strategy, cause I think everything through twice. Btw, everybody can be a good leader after reading Sunzi (and understanding it)

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leaders are worthless.

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(02-14-2012 05:55 AM)Sociopath Wrote:  leaders are worthless.

Maybe in the typical "I tell you what to do and you shut up and do it" leadership fashion.
Good leadership is utilizing an individuals talents to help the whole group, and give individual members the power to take the initiative while the leader is more someone who keeps an eye on the big picture and guides the group towards success than a dictator.

This leadership fully utilizes and intelligence and knowledge of everyone to promote the success of a group as a whole, and is far more effective then a group of leaderless individuals or the aforementioned dictators.

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I'd define the term good leadership as the task of managing a group by knowing and recognizing the individual talents of the people in it.
So a Leader is merely a person who organizes what has been done, what has to be done and, eventually after talking with the group, how it will be done.

A bad leader doesn't comply to this definition however, a bad leader won't recognize talent, but merely use the group to accomplish his own goals and abusing the power he has.

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The Art of War is a good book, yes, and a lot can be learned from it.
But to see how a truly good leader and a truly good team operates, read Ender's Game. I learned a ton from it, and it has a lot of other philosophical stuff in it to.

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That was a good book ^^

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If you re-read it, you realize you miss a lot the first time. And I don't know if you know this, but there are a few more sequels plus a whole separate series about Bean.

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I am only a good leader as the people who follow me are good followers. If they decide that I suck and not to follow what the group and I agree with then our group will be fucked.
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RE: Leadership

Depends on your definition of 'leader'. If it means telling people what to do, then no. I suck at that. I'd much rather just start doing what needs to be done and set an example, and then if people want to follow then that's their choice. But I don't want to tell people what to do...

If being a leader means you're generally the first one to take the initiative to do something, then yeah, in that sense I am, but that's pretty much it.

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So-so. I guess all of us can be good leaders over time, it's just that the effort might not be worth it. I'd much rather follow and do my own stuff.

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Dafaq, wrong thread, sorry.

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Leadership is taking the initiative to evaluate a problem, come up with a remedy and see that remedy through to execution. If for some reason a leader can't follow through with that plan then he or she defers some or all of those duties to people better qualified; because a good leader knows when to follow.
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