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Mælstrom Offline
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Social Groups/Cliques?

Do you find them relevant, stereotypical, or just idiotic? IMO, I think that they create unnecessary barriers, and create prejudice and feuds. You?

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12-29-2011 04:04 AM
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RE: Social Groups/Cliques?

Social groups are pretty fucking retarded. If you talk to someone outside of your "group" it's a huge fucking deal and the world ends. There's nothing wrong with having a bunch of friends from different "groups" but people make it sound so horrible.
Fortunately for me, the school I'm in now is so small that there aren't really any social groups. You can be friends with whoever without any problems.

Of course, there's still the girls that transfered recently who used to be the "amazing super uber popular group" and they still have that same mentality, so they have their stupid little group and absolutely refuse to talk to anyone else >.>
12-29-2011 04:56 AM
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RE: Social Groups/Cliques?

Lol in my school they disappear after 8th grade or so, or at least everyone isn't as uptight about the rules. 5th grade is when they begin to form. I could probably research how compulsory schooling, being forced into the same classes with people you have nothing in common with, etc, forms cliques.

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RE: Social Groups/Cliques?

Yeah it's so fucking stupid!
I don't have a group, I just have a small group of friends, but we talk and hang out with other people too...
EDIT: If I don't have a group but have a small group that's still a group lol i retard.

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RE: Social Groups/Cliques?

I don't remember this really happening until middle school, 7th grade. And it's really just people hanging out with their friends. IME anyway. When I was in high school, I spent a lot of my time with the same people. There was at least one group of so-called "popular" people, but most of them were not nice. A mother of one of the bitchy popular kids once told me that to be popular is to go places and do things. But, I told her, her son would never invite me anywhere, period. Still, I think it's just because we didn't have anything in common. I don't know, I never felt that I was excluding people, I never looked down on someone for not being in my "group". And I got along with most people in class just fine.

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They appear because the school environment is completely unnatural. It is a self-preservation method. Yes, they are stupid but they are caused by school.

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12-30-2011 01:11 AM
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RE: Social Groups/Cliques?

Alright, thanks for the replies. I just posted this because I've been branded as a social outcast at my school, and am desperate for friendship.Self-pity is never a good thing to fall into, but no one listens to me.

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12-30-2011 03:11 AM
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(12-30-2011 03:11 AM)Maelstrom Wrote:  Alright, thanks for the replies. I just posted this because I've been branded as a social outcast at my school, and am desperate for friendship.Self-pity is never a good thing to fall into, but no one listens to me.
Hey, cheer up. I've been labeled the same thing and even though I have a couple of people to hang out with they look at me as a lazy ass good for nothing kid like everyone else in that God forsaken hellhole. If you're looking for someone to talk to I'm here to listen Smile
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Its also people with similar intrests, differences cause strife.
01-03-2012 02:16 AM
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I've got to find someone loyal and true, not like those fuckers from school.
Can't pull cash with them, you never know when they fuck you over.
So until then, I stay in my own group of 1.
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Cliques? Awful things, they are. Best to be an individual and spurn every clique you come across.
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Cliques are complete bullshit. I'd rather be myself and have no friends than be like everyone else and be more popular.

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Everyone's all, 'I-can-be-who-ever-I-wan-a-be. DEM HATERZ B JEALUS LALZ.' Yeah, whatever. I mean they're supposed to. It's cool. But to be honest, I have no clue what is happening on this high school 'social front' or if it is even a reality. For me it's wake up, go to school, go home, sleep, find something to eat, bum around and it's time to go again. I don't know where kids are getting this idea of "so much drama"
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Because people are dicks to each other and that causes problems.
02-09-2012 12:45 AM
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"You're a dick."
Problem solved.
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I'm trying to break free of that stuff. It's worst for girls, I think. It's ok at my school for a guy to be friends with a girl, after all, they're "being friendly or flirting." And if a girl tries to be friends with a guy, it's awkward and rumors start about liking them. So now I'm even more alienated from all the people similar to me.

I'd put a pithy quote here, but I'd rather speak for myself.

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(02-09-2012 10:41 AM)NightThoughts Wrote:  I'm trying to break free of that stuff. It's worst for girls, I think. It's ok at my school for a guy to be friends with a girl, after all, they're "being friendly or flirting." And if a girl tries to be friends with a guy, it's awkward and rumors start about liking them. So now I'm even more alienated from all the people similar to me.

Yeah, this is pretty sad. Some friend of a friend of mine was weirded out when he mistook my friendliness to being attracted to him, even though I just tried to be nice and am anyway usually considered "one of the guys". This, and some other rumors were surprisingly easily stopped by getting a boyfriend though, even though I couldn't really give a shit about dating in general.

As for other things about these cliques, is that whenever I hang out with people outside my group of friends I get asked why did I leave them, even though that's just a single break and shouldn't matter all that much especially since I often see them in class anyway. Seriously, it's as if I shouldn't have other friends. o_O

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Social groups are actually pretty natural, mang. People with similar personalities and interests are drawn together and form groups. There's really no reason to be bitter about it. The only reason you guys have trouble making friends is your conviction that everyone is and idiot and below your notice, and natural introversion.

It's just a matter of being friendly and listening to people! And people are pretty raaaaaaaaaad when you get down to it.

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I agree with the self-righteousness thing that you're saying, but as an introvert, it's incredibly hard to even get people who want to talk to you when people around the school spread untrue rumours about you. People I've never even met or spoken to "hate" me because of my shyness. It might be that they interpret my quietness as me thinking I'm more aloof than them or that I find them boring, but it's the exact opposite. The words and conversations come to me in my head like wildfire, but I never have enough courage to act them out in reality. When you feel alienated by almost everyone you know, it's hard to gain friends. From how you speak (and I apologize if I'm wrong in this judgement), it seems that you have an extroverted personality. These things come easier to one with confidence and personality than a introvert filled with insecurities and childish fears, so please consider that.

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(03-26-2012 12:07 PM)Mælstrom Wrote:  I agree with the self-righteousness thing that you're saying, but as an introvert, it's incredibly hard to even get people who want to talk to you when people around the school spread untrue rumours about you. People I've never even met or spoken to "hate" me because of my shyness. It might be that they interpret my quietness as me thinking I'm more aloof than them or that I find them boring, but it's the exact opposite. The words and conversations come to me in my head like wildfire, but I never have enough courage to act them out in reality. When you feel alienated by almost everyone you know, it's hard to gain friends. From how you speak (and I apologize if I'm wrong in this judgement), it seems that you have an extroverted personality. These things come easier to one with confidence and personality than a introvert filled with insecurities and childish fears, so please consider that.

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Touché. That I will do.

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(03-26-2012 12:07 PM)Mælstrom Wrote:  I agree with the self-righteousness thing that you're saying, but as an introvert, it's incredibly hard to even get people who want to talk to you when people around the school spread untrue rumours about you. People I've never even met or spoken to "hate" me because of my shyness. It might be that they interpret my quietness as me thinking I'm more aloof than them or that I find them boring, but it's the exact opposite. The words and conversations come to me in my head like wildfire, but I never have enough courage to act them out in reality. When you feel alienated by almost everyone you know, it's hard to gain friends. From how you speak (and I apologize if I'm wrong in this judgement), it seems that you have an extroverted personality. These things come easier to one with confidence and personality than a introvert filled with insecurities and childish fears, so please consider that.

My apologies for my previous insensitivity, I have an unfortunate tendency to overgeneralize.

I'm not sure if personality and confidence make one an extrovert, through. I've got neither but a burning interest in people and listening to them, but I can see where you're coming from.

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It's generally confidence and interest, though many extroverts can suffer from cockiness at times. Thanks for understanding Smile

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Cliques happen, it's part of human nature. We just gotta deal with it.

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