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I Try To Talk. But Nothing Comes Out.....
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EnemyOfTheState Offline
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I Try To Talk. But Nothing Comes Out.....

Is there a problem with me?I don't understand why this happens. I swear I can't take it anymore. Every-time I want to meet new people I know what I wanna talk about or say in my head, but I can't say anything like my voice is muted. or am in class and know the answer to a question but don't say it because I'm afraid of what people will think of me.

As we all know this is High School, where people ridicule, laugh at, harass and take advantage of the Intelligent people (YES, I've seen this happen alot). Is this some kind of problem with me medically or something. I can't really explain it well....

Example:
Teacher: What do you want to be when you leave High School in 2 years?

Guy 1: A Football Player

Guy 2: The Next Drake or Lil Wayne

Me (What I'm Thinking): A Game Designer or something with software or science)

Me (What I say): I don't know....

BUT, the reason why I don't get it is because when I'm outside my city (like at Camp in the Summer or something) I can EASILY talk, and act pretty much any way I want, without freezing up or feeling to nervous to say anything. Maybe it's because I don't care what people in a city I don't live think of me, or maybe it's because I'm around more people like me.... any advice? Confused

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RE: I Try To Talk. But Nothing Comes Out.....

You're over thinking things. Just calm down and it will come to you.

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12-05-2011 02:23 PM
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RE: I Try To Talk. But Nothing Comes Out.....

Hey I know how you feel all too well. Well is it because most of your peers don't really know you too well? If I were asked that at my current highschool Id probably say the same thing, even though I know I want to be a pro wrestler. However I recently started going to sunday school and I have no problem speaking my mind. Same everywhere else. Its like in highschool Ive created this image for myself and can't seem to break out of it. Does that sound like your situation?
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RE: I Try To Talk. But Nothing Comes Out.....

I was a little bit like that in school, maybe not as bad as you but eh. You just have to have to confidence to speak what you think without fear that people will judge you. It's also a lot harder if you don't really speak to the people around you. As soon as I got into college it was like I broke out the image I created for myself and now I'm a lot more social then I was. To be straight there isn't really any secrets to it, you just have to break the mould and speak. I found I gained my confidence when I was forced to do presentations in front of class, I would be shitting myself weeks beforehand, but each time it got easier and easier.

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RE: I Try To Talk. But Nothing Comes Out.....

I've always been really quiet, it's tough sometimes...because I end up having these imaginary conversations with people, that I sometimes forget are imaginary. I definitely can sympathize with your plight.

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12-05-2011 09:54 PM
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RE: I Try To Talk. But Nothing Comes Out.....

Does any of this seem relevant?:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Selective_mutism

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