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Don't let your grades affect your self-esteem
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Don't let your grades affect your self-esteem

Grades have always been a bull shit system to abide by. They're essentially teaching kids that if you do what you're told, you'll get "rewarded" with these meaningless numbers that are supposed to get you satisfaction. And if you do get decent grades, what have you accomplished? You've cheated the system! You were able to memorize a useless fact, complete a useless paper that only two people will read, you and your teacher (and both of whom won't give any flying shit about it after its completed, which leaves no lasting remarks or thoughts and is basically a dull, dry work of nothing but obedience) and pass pathetic tests that judge how well you know something that doesn't matter, nor affect you, in the future.

There's no incentive for me to do well in school because --ooops!-- I'm that one crazy person that actually realizes that all this crap they toss at you is nothing but bland information that has no purpose in my life. You want me to do well in school? Scrap the grades, lose the idea that everyone has to take certain classes throughout their high school education (i.e. english, math, etc.) and give more classes that students will actually enjoy and benefit from. If someone wants to take english and write essays all year, that's fine. But don't make the rest of us suffer in one of those designated prison cells amid the gulag that we call school, and allow us to take other class that are more interesting to us. Hell, maybe I'd enjoy waking up everyday to go.

The unfortunate thing is that people seem to think that these "core" classes are the only classes that matter, when in fact their not. It's engraved into their heads, really. Structure is everything, they tell us. Without structure, you can't support yourself or anything that you do. Really? If you think I lack structure, than allow me to demonstrate how I, in fact, have more structure than you do because I realize that what they feed us in school is nothing short of processed crap. And you're the one who eats it every day. That "mush" isn't very stable, because once you glop on a big heaping of reality, it just collapsed right down to the ground.

Its a terrible system, this whole school system is. Grades mean nothing, yet they seem to trick people, both bright and dull, into thinking that it really is. The classes they offer, the work they give, is pointless to most students. Why not offer something that's interesting that students are able to get excited about, want to learn more and explore and create and discover? That's how we're supposed to advance, but if anything, school is slowing the advancement, school is halting those who actually want to learn and explore and create and discover. I've had enough. If I ever get into a position where I'm able to change it, I will, otherwise I'll be damned if I don't.
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