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The Trickle-Down Theory of Human Kindness
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The Trickle-Down Theory of Human Kindness

Quote::: The Trickle-Down Theory of Human Kindness ::

In peaceful "primitive" cultures, kindness is
sustained from generation to generation by a kind of
"trickle-down" effect. At its core is the commonly
held value of serving and delighting younger people,
especially babies.

Adults appreciate and support the delight of adolescents,
who delight in the joy of prepubescents,
who enjoy entertaining younger children,
who love to carry babies and play with toddlers.

The elegance of this top-down, pleasure-oriented value
system is that the youngest people receive the most
(and give the least) at the developmental stage when
they're naturally narcissistic, while those who give more
are more adept at deriving joy from giving.

In contrast...

Adults in our culture often *fear* adolescents,
who call prepubescents "dweebs,"
who disparagingly call younger children "babies,"
who compete with real babies for love and attention.

When your children behave unkindly, remember that you
can't enforce authentic kindness. Instead, let it
trickle down by *modeling* unconditional generosity.
Using your creativity, find a way to serve and delight
both "aggressor" and "victim" ...and yourself, too!

~ by Scott Noelle

What do you guys think?

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RE: The Trickle-Down Theory of Human Kindness

Awwww! How cuuuuuute!
No, really, obviously you should model the behaviour you want the chilluns to exhibit. *agrees*

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RE: The Trickle-Down Theory of Human Kindness

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(10-21-2011 06:45 AM)HeartofShadows Wrote:  [Image: meh_ro4659.jpg]

Basically my first thought was that. (Not the gay teletubby but psycho/sociopaths.)

Barring those defects I do agree with what Scott is saying, generally.

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RE: The Trickle-Down Theory of Human Kindness

Quote:the delight of adolescents,
who delight in the joy of prepubescents,

Reporting.

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(10-21-2011 06:54 AM)AWOL Wrote:  
Quote:the delight of adolescents,
who delight in the joy of prepubescents,

Reporting.

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smh of course the pedo has to comment on that Laugh

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RE: The Trickle-Down Theory of Human Kindness

It's true. Be a good example and people will want to be like you. Be a bad example and people will want to do whatever the opposite is of what you do, just because it's not what you do. Well, that last part isn't always true.

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(10-21-2011 07:09 AM)SoulRiser Wrote:  It's true. Be a good example and people will want to be like you. Be a bad example and people will want to do whatever the opposite is of what you do, just because it's not what you do. Well, that last part isn't always true.

*Looks at the rich, powerful and elite*

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