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What does it look like to be respected at school?
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What does it look like to be respected at school?

I am just curious. Everyone talks about lack of respect. I do not respect my teachers and they don't respect me. What does it mean to be respected? Really, like how do they want me to behave?

I know how I'd like to be treated. Like a human. Anybody out there wanna help me understand what this R_E_S_P_E_C_T really means?

I'd just like to explain that to my teachers. That their behavior makes me feel like s**t sometimes.
04-07-2007 06:33 AM
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Be absolutely obiedant.
Well that's THEIR definition.
My definition generally is treating someone like you would a living thing.

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LittleFreak14 Wrote:Be absolutely obiedant.
Well that's THEIR definition.
My definition generally is treating someone like you would a living thing.
Unlike at school/prison/Hell, where they treat you like shit, not caring about feelings or regarding you as a human being and I FUCKING HATE THOSE DEMONS! Sorry, violent outburst.

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Dark Soul X Wrote:
LittleFreak14 Wrote:Be absolutely obiedant.
Well that's THEIR definition.
My definition generally is treating someone like you would a living thing.
Unlike at school/prison/Hell, where they treat you like shit, not caring about feelings or regarding you as a human being and I FUCKING HATE THOSE DEMONS! Sorry, violent outburst.

I hear ya, they don't treat as humans, and I tell ya, some people, at shcool don't even ACT like humans anymore, while the rest of us have to suffer.
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basically my opinion is respect is treating someone at least the bare minimum of how you'd like to be treated. allowing them to have their dignity. i do not think you have to be nice to them, but you have to at least view them as human beings and treat them that way. i, myself, try to respect and be polite to everyone, no matter if they do or do not deserve it.
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I think the world would be a much better place, if everybody had a little more respect and compassion for everybody else.

And by respect, I mean treating everybody else fair, not unquestioning obedience.

To me, respect and compassion are the most important human traits. Cause without them, what are ya?
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I'm gonna quote myself twice quickly...

Quote:Expected respect is respect unearned

Quote:Respect is something
that you have to earn
but you yell, demand
and give none in return

Respect is how you view a person, whether you think of them positively or negatively (to put it very basically). If someone treats me (or other people) badly, I lose respect for them, but I'll still treat them with (some level of) respect, so long as I don't get incredibly pissed off that is... Uhoh ... but that doesn't happen very often, luckily Smile

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I thought a lot about this when I was writing some forum post I can't find.

One "earns respect" by respecting others, so, in order to be respectful, you have to respect people who don't respect you. When you earn respect, I think you are just being so respectful that others respect you unconsciously or feel guilty when they disrespect you.
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