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Ahab · 08-05-2007 04:25 PM

edit: fuck this

thoughtmaker · 08-05-2007 04:56 PM

this is what my parents are like. they make it seem like they're asking you, when they are really telling you. i wouldn't have a problem most of the time doing what they wanted, if my parents actually asked without thinking that i had to do what they told me. being forced or 'asked' nicely when you really know that they expect you to do it, are the same thing, and that's it's of the only things i can't stand.

**SoulRiser** · 08-05-2007 11:59 PM

Sheeesh, why bother to ask in the first place if she's already "decided" what you're going to do? Some people ... Rolleyes

Tell her exactly what you said here.

08-06-2007 12:01 AM

My parents don't pull that kind of bullshit.

Freak · 08-06-2007 03:07 AM

My mom just acts like really big victim. I've noticed that lots of people do that.
Zero's grandma takes the victim thing to a WHOLE nother degree. Laugh

Darthmat · 08-06-2007 06:15 AM

no they don't.

Suicidal-kun · 08-06-2007 06:21 AM

My mom will ask me and when I say no, she starts crying and tries to guilt me into it, it gets really annoying.

Darthmat · 08-06-2007 06:43 AM

that sucks.

Suicidal-kun · 08-06-2007 06:58 AM

darthmat Wrote: that sucks.

Yeah and then when I still say no, she hangs up and calls me all the next day saying how I don't have to go and this and that, while still trying to guilt me into it and then if that fails, she goes back to crying more.

**SoulRiser** · 08-06-2007 07:02 AM

Suicidal-kun Wrote:
darthmat Wrote: that sucks.
Yeah and then when I still say no, she hangs up and calls me all the next day saying how I don't have to go and this and that, while still trying to guilt me into it and then if that fails, she goes back to crying more.

AAAA... people like that are really annoying Brickwall

I don't think they even do it on purpose either. Which makes it even MORE annoying, because you can't just tell them to stop their stupid game... they go all "What game? YOU'RE JUST PLAYING WITH MY FEELINGS!!!! WAAAAH!!!" Laugh

Darthmat · 08-06-2007 07:21 AM

Suicidal-kun · 08-06-2007 07:22 AM

SoulRiser Wrote:
Suicidal-kun Wrote:
darthmat Wrote: that sucks.
Yeah and then when I still say no, she hangs up and calls me all the next day saying how I don't have to go and this and that, while still trying to guilt me into it and then if that fails, she goes back to crying more.

AAAA... people like that are really annoying

I don't think they even do it on purpose either. Which makes it even MORE annoying, because you can't just tell them to stop their stupid game... they go all "What game? YOU'RE JUST PLAYING WITH MY FEELINGS!!!! WAAAAH!!!"

Yup, but when I told my mom to stop once, she just said that she loves me and started crying more. Laugh

Darthmat · 08-06-2007 07:24 AM

HeartofShadows · 08-06-2007 01:00 PM

Nah my mom asks me if I want to go somewhere. No Bullshit, No mind games or anything.

Dark Soul X · 08-06-2007 01:01 PM

Heart of shadows Wrote:Nah my mom asks me if I want to go somewhere. No Bullshit, No mind games or anything.

Same.

Suicidal-kun · 08-06-2007 01:19 PM

Dark Soul X Wrote:
Heart of shadows Wrote:Nah my mom asks me if I want to go somewhere. No Bullshit, No mind games or anything.

Same.

Lucky bastards.

HeartofShadows · 08-06-2007 01:21 PM

Although my mom makes me cut my hair and get off the computer if its late.

Happy Camper · 08-06-2007 02:50 PM

To be perfectly honest, those don't really sound like mind games to me. More like a bad habit or a struggling parent. I mean you could complain about her making you go places and stuff but I don't see any real psychological side to it. Other than maybe the illusion of a choice.

Darthmat · 08-06-2007 09:12 PM

guilt (or fake guilt) is an emotion that can be used to pshycologically have power over people...it is seen in every day situations like SK's or all the way into the court room. so it can be pshycological.

Abandoning Ship · 08-06-2007 11:08 PM

Well, they don't use pshyjogical attacks or anything, but they do so much underhanded bullshit, I swear. -_-

Will · 08-07-2007 02:16 AM

Here's what I think: When she's asking whether you want to go, she thinks she is being nice but expecting you to say you'll go, and when she tells you you're going, she's teaching you not to be rude. It's probably related to the things Happy Camper mentioned.

One time, I was taping a baseball game for my school television station, and the adult who runs the station and the tapings asked whether I wanted to run the main camera or "direct"--operate the device that chooses which camera gets shown on TV. I chose the main camera because I don't like sitting, but he really wanted to be on the main camera. Fortunately, he told me that he was just trying to be nice and that he actually wanted to be on the main camera.

Suicidal-kun · 08-07-2007 02:17 AM

Heart of shadows Wrote:Although my mom makes me cut my hair and get off the computer if its late.

My dad does the same, though he yells at me to get off the comp.

Dark Soul X · 08-09-2007 12:27 PM

Heart of shadows Wrote:Although my mom makes me cut my hair and get off the computer if its late.

Same, cept it's my dad, he cuts my hair, and he tells me to get off at a certain time so he can get back on.

Darthmat · 08-09-2007 08:49 PM

Its so lame when my parents are all..you are to addicted to that comp. Would you rather have e watch T.V. or play on my gamecube(that i haven't played in liek months)??? there si nothing in this house that i enjoy alot except my comp or reading, which i do on saturdays since i can't do electronics on teh sabbath.

starfish · 10-11-2007 01:01 AM

ugh your mom sounds like a child. Throwing tantrums at her age just messes you up. There's nothing worse, or more disgusting in my personal opinion, then a 40 year old who has the maturity of anything under 30

Rebelnerd · 10-11-2007 07:05 AM

my parents like guiltrips. what really pisses me off is when they tell me to do something, like taking out the trash or scooping dog crap, and i say ok. then, when i'm not looking, they go and do it and then yell at me for "not doing my job and letting others carry my weight" even though i had every intention of doing in within the next five minutes, and had told them that already.

HeartofShadows · 10-11-2007 07:55 AM

Mom- Bobby although you don't like or trust people you have to be with them.
Me- Mom when I get older I will work at my job being respectful to my boss and co workers but I will not kiss ass
like you do to people.
Mom- stop disrespecting me you have to learn to blah blah blah and all that shit.

**SoulRiser** · 10-11-2007 08:15 AM

Quote:Throwing tantrums at her age just messes you up. There's nothing worse, or more disgusting in my personal opinion, then a 40 year old who has the maturity of anything under 30

Maturity isn't an age thing though, except maybe for really really small kids. But I'm sure there are kids who don't throw tantrums either.

But yeah. Some of my friends have parents who still throw tantrums... one's mother got pissed off at the neighbour over something to do with birds, and had a shouting contest, then came home and took it out on people in the house.

It's disgusting, yes.... but I find it more sad. They could do a lot better, but they don't.

Quote:what really pisses me off is when they tell me to do something, like taking out the trash or scooping dog crap, and i say ok. then, when i'm not looking, they go and do it and then yell at me for "not doing my job and letting others carry my weight" even though i had every intention of doing in within the next five minutes, and had told them that already.

I hate it when people do that... Stabhead

Evasion · 10-11-2007 08:25 AM

My dads not smart enough to, if he tries he makes a fool of himself.

ChickenLeg · 10-11-2007 10:51 PM

SoulRiser Wrote:
Quote:what really pisses me off is when they tell me to do something, like taking out the trash or scooping dog crap, and i say ok. then, when i'm not looking, they go and do it and then yell at me for "not doing my job and letting others carry my weight" even though i had every intention of doing in within the next five minutes, and had told them that already.

I hate it when people do that...

Yes. I have to do the dishes, but sometimes I'll skip a day or do it later than normal. When I get around doing it, lo and behold, it's done, and I have had serious intention of actually doing it.

Another thing is my room. My mom says it's messy. Now, I can see where she gets that, but I can find my stuff better that way. (except for objects that mysteriously vanish when I need them and never return again. Sometimes I base my whole room cleaning on finding those things.) However, my mom is pretty old, like, late 50's, and so she has a harder time maneuvering or something. The point is, I get really steamed when I totally plan to clean my room, but my mom comes out of nowhere and tells me to clean it. Now it's something that wasn't for myself anymore.

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