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procrastination is destroying me

Lately, my procrastination has become a severe problem (notice time of posting). I always put off homework and studying until the last minute. As a result, I'm getting too little sleep and its probably no surprise that I got my first F. I know I should do things earlier but procrastination has become sort of an escape for me. I tend to go online and research whatever is occupying my mind or go on a wikipedia click fest.

I don't think time management is the biggest issue here but I feel as if I have developed an unhealthy habit of avoiding the unpleasant tasks as well as internet addiction, specifically addiction to all the information that is out there online. I also feel as if my internet over use is taking over time I used to allocate for art and other more productive activities. I've tried making schedules for myself to follow but I always fail or only follow a small part of the schedule.

I'm extremely frustrated and disappointed at myself. Depression, which had laid dormant in mefor a while, has returned. I know it's all my fault and I should just do school work first and stop using the internet so often but the bad habits have become so ingrained in me.

My parents think fixing my problem is just a matter of improving my time management and being less lazy but my issues go far beyond that. They say I don't care about my life and ask me if want to flip hamburgers. This really stabs me inside. Maybe I'm just sensitive but what my parents said to me was probably the worst insult I've ever experienced. I do care about life. I really do. I try to explain myself to my parents but they insist on saying I that I don't care about my life.

Maybe laziness plays some part but I feel that unhealthy escapism is taking over me. I sometimes daydream when I'm not front of a computer. At times, I day dream about an ideal, perfect me with high intelligence, athletic ability, and good social skills ie having friends. Childish, self-centered, and a waste of time-I know.

I should be taking action to make myself a better person and helping others more needy instead of daydreaming and pitying myself. Honestly, the person I hate the most is me.

I guess it's all in my head and obviously only I can fix my stupid self but I would really appreciate any advice on getting out of this mess of a state I'm in.
02-07-2011 03:53 AM
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Re: procrastination is destroying me

I think I have the same problems. I procrastinate and take forever with certain things. Like right now I have this fucking accounting textbook I have to read, and I'm just now getting the gusto to read it. I also have to apply to certain jobs, but have been holding that off too. And even things I WANT to do I can't get motivated to do. The internet and video games have been the only thing I feel like doing but even that gets boring sometimes. And I'm left with the same crappy feeling of dread afterwards.

While I don't want to be really really busy, I admit I am sick of this lack of motivation I have that's keeping me from doing things. I think some of it could be depression or perhaps learning difficulties I have been diagnosed with, but what ever it is, it has slowed me down. The best solution I have is to not beat yourself up and just do what you want to do, but I know that's easier said than done.
02-07-2011 08:15 AM
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I think practically everyone here has this problem, I do homework the night before it is due at like 10PM
02-07-2011 08:34 AM
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Are you me?

I have the exact same problems... From what I've read, everyone keeps saying "Just do it and eventually you'll get over it..." But that's the whole problem. I'm too lazy to "just do it".

At times I've found myself sitting on my couch at three in the morning saying to myself "Too late now, I have to sleep... I'll do my homework tomorrow and turn it in late". The next day will yield the same result. It's a giant pain in the ass, and it's fucking my grade up.

Makes me kind of depressed... I keep putting off getting a job, and learning programming and networking too. It's fucking my shit up.

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Lol people are still having issues with Procrastination, learn to be awesome like me, and develop a case of procrastination that causes you to procrastinate procrastination.

that or I have a weird sleep disorder that causes me to wake up at 4 am the day a big project is due and I wrap it up just in time to head off to school.
02-10-2011 02:40 PM
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I dont even procrastinate anymore, I just don't do the work. I dont think I have done work at home for 7 months now. much less stressful. for big projects like essays I usually ditch my first block math class and write it in the library, I can write a 2 page essay in 15 minutes no sweat. granted they have spelling and grammar errors everywhere, but its not like I care about those anyway. depending on the teacher I usually get an A. Procrastination is not the problem, its about how efficiently you can finish something. Balance your skills with your time, and if you can't do it right, either adapt by learning how to do it faster or adapt by giving yourself more time.

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Jesusaurisrex Wrote:I dont even procrastinate anymore, I just don't do the work. I dont think I have done work at home for 7 months now. much less stressful. for big projects like essays I usually ditch my first block math class and write it in the library, I can write a 2 page essay in 15 minutes no sweat. granted they have spelling and grammar errors everywhere, but its not like I care about those anyway. depending on the teacher I usually get an A. Procrastination is not the problem, its about how efficiently you can finish something. Balance your skills with your time, and if you can't do it right, either adapt by learning how to do it faster or adapt by giving yourself more time.

I agree to an extent. I've been doing this since 7th grade or so. I've only started doing my homework recently, and that's because my homework is usually classwork that I put off doing during class, and projects that I have to do... This year, for some reason, my teachers seem to want me to do a ton of work at home. It's a giant pain in the ass.

I'm the same way about essays though, they are fucking easy... I can write one pretty quckly. Or at least I used to be able to. My teacher this year is forcing us to think critically. (lol, should be a good thing, but I'm lazy as shit...) E.g. he grades our shit based on how origional and critically thought out we write, not how well we write. It's a pain in the dick, but at least he's actually teaching people how to express themselves.

Eh, bittersweet I guess.

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02-10-2011 02:51 PM
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Is it really procrastination if I don't care about the work? If so, then I've techinically procrastinated for over a year now.

What I'm trying to say is... If I walk up to someone and say "here, do this crossword tomorrow," would they be "lazy" if they don't?

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Quote:What I'm trying to say is... If I walk up to someone and say "here, do this crossword tomorrow," would they be "lazy" if they don't?
This verily.

You can't be considered lazy for not doing stuff you didn't want or choose to do in the first place.

And there's nothing wrong with daydreaming. I could daydream 24/7 (and I actually did do that for almost an entire week once when the power was off). For that matter, I daydreamed most days in school away. I turned out OK.

And to come back to the crossword puzzle... if you somehow convinced everyone that not doing the crossword would "ruin your future", and the person doesn't wanna do the crossword, then you say "don't you care about your life?!" ... when in fact the crossword will most likely have no effect on your future whatsoever... it's a bit silly.

You obviously do care about your life, if you didn't, then you'd just jump through the hoops and do whatever people expect of you without question. The fact that you don't want to do that means that you do care about your life.

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I used to procrastinate, but not anymore. I used to just stay up all night and do the bare minimum of homework I needed to do to pass at 5 am, then I would sleep for an hour or so. I did this pretty much every night.

But I don't do that anymore...now I just don't do it. For the past 2 semesters, it was great. I got to do more stuff I actually cared about, and had more time for sleep. I was actually still passing, so people pretty much left me alone. But at the end of this past semester, I didn't do a few major projects, and failed a class. (Literature, ironically since all I do is read) My dad had to go to a meeting about it one day, and later, when I was at my friends house, my dad came to pick me up but told my friend and her parents about it.

My friends mom talked to me in private. She was concerned, and tried to convince me that school isn't stupid and pointless. She failed miserably. We also talked about a few other things. (Not doing assignments was the main reason this happened, but there were a few other minor things) After that I went home...and ironically didn't do homework. XD

I also got called down to guidance, and apparently they're going to make sure I do my work. Nice to know they only care about whether or not I do assignments. Smile

This weekend I'm at my mom's house, and she wanted to talk too. She said I have to go to school. I tried to explain just how pointless and stupid school is, but she said I should just fake it to get a diploma. -_- I told her that I suck at explaining what I'm thinking out loud, so she said I can write it and let her read it. It's going to mostly explain just how little education there is in school, and explain why I don't do homework and other stuff.

I just realized I'm procrastinating on that too. Wow. Sorry for rambling, but when I was typing, all of that somehow appeared. XD
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