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Evil child

If you had a kid who lacked any empathy for other people, would you find it hard to love them? Like they were mean, egotistical, judgemental bullies that basicaly get joy from others peoples pain and problem, and spend most of their time ridiculing these poor souls instead of trying to help or understand them. And this was your son or daughter. Would they disgust you? Because as an empathetic person who does care about other people, and has a very open mind, I don't think I could love them.
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i'd try to help him and i'd love him as family, but i wouldn't like him.

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That's a hard one. I probably would, I mean it would be my kids.

My wife would probably love the kid more, I mean mothers have a maternal bond that isn't found in fathers.

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No kid is born like that; kids are made like that.
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I would love him as best I could, though I probably wouldn't like him much, but I like what halla said about them not being born that way, but made that way.
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I can't really answer that considering I am not a father yet and I have no clue what the emotional bond would feel like.
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Re: Evil child

If I were a parent of such a child, I would have almost complete control over his life, and it would be socially acceptable and legal for me to create such a situation where I could talk to him and figure out why he acted like that. I simply don't know him well enough; even my parents don't really know me.
starfish Wrote:Because as an empathetic person who does care about other people, and has a very open mind, I don't think I could love them.
Do you firmly believe that you have an open mind, or do you just try to or think you do?
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1. Either the kid's got mental problems and needs to see a therapist or something.
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2. Something is causing them to act like this and it needs to be fixed.

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Rebelnerd Wrote:i'd try to help him and i'd love him as family, but i wouldn't like him.

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well i naturaly have an open mind. I wasn't brought up with super set beliefs. And on the stuff that maybe I am closed minded about, I always try to open to suggestions and other ppls opinions. Why do you say that though? It sounds like you're accusing me of not being.
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starfish Wrote:well i naturaly have an open mind. I wasn't brought up with super set beliefs. And on the stuff that maybe I am closed minded about, I always try to open to suggestions and other ppls opinions. Why do you say that though? It sounds like you're accusing me of not being.
What if you really don't have an open mind? If you're sure that it's open, it certainly isn't. You were probably just simplifying this idea so you didn't have to write so much, but I couldn't resist asking.
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i wouldn't. i would try to make him so he wouldn't be like that, but how could anyone love someone like that?
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That sounds so familiar... I used to be that way.. Noo
I saw people as pathetic tools who were caught in petty ideals and dreams believing they could do anything so long as they tryed. I thought people like that were destined to fail and people like me were destined to use people like that.
People were only there to be used and thrown away like trash so I could get ahead in life (middle school made me think this way) because thats how much life is worth in this world...
Until I met my friend Will. Even when I acted crazy to him to scare him away he was the first person to ask me Bobby why do you act this way and got to know me.

(Looking into the past done)

looking at how I was I could never truly love and trust a kid like that.

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I dunno. Maybe if the kid was nice to begin with and then became horrible, I'd probably still love 'em and want to figure out what went wrong. Which is probably what it'll be like... I mean, people aren't born psychopaths. Something always triggers it...

That's all hypothetical for if I actually ever have a kid, which I won't... so...

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I would love them.
Not because they are my child, but because they are another human being.
What reason do we have not to love someone on a humanly level?

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Quote:I would love them.
Not because they are my child, but because they are another human being.
What reason do we have not to love someone on a humanly level?

Good point. It's easier said than done though... I'd like to be able to say I love everyone, but I don't think I'd be telling the truth if I said that.

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No one loves everyone.

I highly suggest Mobb Deep's albums The Infamous and Hell on Earth, if you have not listened to it yet.
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darthmat Wrote:No one loves everyone.
except god of course.

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Well, according to my religion tahst not ture.

And i think yo uwre being sarcastic anyways. >.>

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Yes yes I was.

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Heart of shadows Wrote:
darthmat Wrote:No one loves everyone.
except god of course.

Well, except for the whole "creating Hell" part.
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1. god dosent exist,
2. ye si would, i mean i wouldent lvoe them as a person but as father/kid love.

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darthmat Wrote:No one loves everyone.

I don't believe that.

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I have a bad habit of loving people that are bad for me. A symptom of "neurotic loyalty".

While I might not like the kid, yeah I'd still feel like I owed him the world. Which is kind of funny 'cause if he was my kid, in a funny sort of way you'd think he'd owe me his.

I don't know if I can answer this with a clear head. I played the virgin Mary recently and I'm surrounded by all my baby cousins. I'm feeling very maternal lately.

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a mini pimp that is evil? Yes i would love him very much. Mwahaha
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I am one of those people that don't give a damn about the people around them. Have a view from one of us, will ya?

So, I am the way I am because the people around me don't give a damn about me. So why, in turn give a damn about them. I prefer the thought of stabbing them through the throat than letting them go fuck up your life some more. That's just my take on why some people are "Evil" like that.
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Quote:I am one of those people that don't give a damn about the people around them. Have a view from one of us, will ya?

So, I am the way I am because the people around me don't give a damn about me. So why, in turn give a damn about them. I prefer the thought of stabbing them through the throat than letting them go fuck up your life some more. That's just my take on why some people are "Evil" like that.

Good point. That doesn't really make you "evil" then, more like just frustrated or something. But if you met a person who did actually give a damn about you, you'd be more lenient with the throat stabbing, right? Biggrin

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Yep. Just a little less jerking and more sliding... >>;;;

But in all seriousness, I've met a couple who do give a damn about me, ironically, more so than my own parents, but I rarely talk to them at school. We talk more on MSN when we don't have things to talk about instead.

'Cept for Otter-boy and Deidra. I can talk to them as much as I want in German.

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Yeah. People who genuinely give a damn are sort of rare. I'm just glad I found some before I gave up on the human race in general.

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I don't think so. I mean, I'm sure I'd HOPE that they could be helped somehow, and I'd feel guilty for not loving them as my kid, but, depending on the severity of what they did, I'd probably have to say no.

Because I dig you, like Aussies dig pies, like Born-Agains dig Jesus, like Jesus dug guys.
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