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Girl, 13, gets detention for hugging two friends
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Girl, 13, gets detention for hugging two friends

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MASCOUTAH, Ill. - Two hugs equals two days of detention for 13-year-old Megan Coulter.

The eighth-grader was punished for violating a school policy banning public displays of affection when she hugged two friends Friday.

“I feel it is crazy,” said Megan, who was to serve her second detention Tuesday after classes at Mascoutah Middle School.

District Superintendent Sam McGowen said that he thinks the penalty is fair and that administrators in the school east of St. Louis were following policy in the student handbook.

It states: “Displays of affection should not occur on the school campus at any time. It is in poor taste, reflects poor judgment, and brings discredit to the school and to the persons involved.”

Parents urge change in policy
Coulter said she and her husband told their daughter to go ahead and serve her detentions
because the only other option was a day of suspension for each skipped detention.

“We don’t agree with it, but I certainly don’t want her to get in more trouble,” Coulter said.

The couple plan to attend the next school board meeting to ask board members to consider rewording the policy or be more specific in what is considered a display of affection.

“I’m just hoping the school board will open their eyes and just realize that maybe they shouldn’t be punishing us for hugs,” Megan said.

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WTF? I can't believe that!
11-08-2007 07:15 AM
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Just read this on Digg. Naturally, expressing affection will distract children from their indoctrination, and that is bad if the schools want our stupid cattle workforce intact.

What a disgrace.

Stupid Parents Wrote:“We don’t agree with it, but I certainly don’t want her to get in more trouble,” Coulter said.
Grow some balls, will you?

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Darkstripe Wrote:brings discredit to the school

So it's only fair to hug the school and their mascot?
Grow some balls.
And some brains.

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Quote:“Displays of affection should not occur on the school campus at any time. It is in poor taste, reflects poor judgment, and brings discredit to the school and to the persons involved.”

They are saying this about affection. They're fucking insane. Cuckoo

I'm adding this article to the news section...

I can't believe the parents are only willing to go so far as to ask them to reword the policy...

You know what'd be cool? Everyone rebelling by hugging everyone in sight. That'd be awesome.

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i hug lots of people (mostly girls) and getting detention for hugging?? utter retardation
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I go to a privater school and for one reason or another i put my hand on a girls shoulder, i think to anooy her or something, and got yelled at...... fuckers.

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Blame parental lawsuits for rules like this. "Johnny was sexually harassing my Susie. I'm gonna sue you!"

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Laugh
Here's a pretty nice blog post about it.

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something similar has happened to two of my friends who are dating. Once they were in the courtyard sort of place at lunch time and they were hugging each other and a teacher came up to them and pryed them apart and said "we'll have none of that here!" or something to that affect. I was actually kinda happy that they got yelled at 'cause I'm fucking sick of them always being all over each other but I still think it's unfair that you can't hug people. It's not in the school rule book or anything, it's only some teachers who get irked by it.

Another time in maths clas they were sitting next to each other and one of them kissed the other on the cheek and a teacher who had come in our class quickly to get something from the supply room full on shouted at my friend for pecking her boyfriend on the cheek. I think he said something like "That's disgusting! Stop being stupid and childish and grow up!". She started crying like a lot after that, again, I was happy someone put them in their place but it's still a bit harsh.
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wow, you know, i read that in our local paper today, about those two 13 year ols, it was in a Melbourne paper..


and i was like

"LOL! i read that on SS"

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Well what do you expect. We have to wait till we are married to hug or we will have low chance for success.

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Quote:We have to wait till we are married to hug or we will have low chance for success.

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Yeah, and then everyone will die really young due to lack of physical contact with another person.

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New article on this topic here!
http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/21690514/
There's a video you can watch on there to.


On three occasions, 13-year-old Megan Coulter threw her arm around the shoulder of a classmate. Just once, 12-year-old Madison Muir hugged a friend who had recently lost a parent.

For those acts, both girls were given detention by their middle schools for violating bans against public displays of affection.

WHAT? Even more stupid!!! She lost a parent to! So it's out of comfort to, that's not allowed?
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Quote:“I honestly think I shouldn’t be punished,” said Megan, speaking with her mother, Melissa Coulter, from their home in Muscoutah, Ill. “The hugs were nothing inappropriate. There weren’t bodies pressed up against one another. It was simply a one-armed hug across the shoulders — nothing bad.”

This is sad. It means the bastards are getting their "message" across that some forms of hugs are actually bad. Noo

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SoulRiser Wrote:This is sad. It means the bastards are getting their "message" across that some forms of hugs are actually bad. Noo

Very true, they have done these kind of things in the UK (Don't know if they reached the US media) I think its pretty petty, a hug isn't really going to distract you, surely they should be focusing on more important things? Like the teenagers that are getting pregnant!

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My school doesn't care about hugging. I have hugged a friend right in front of one of the most strict teachers in the school and he didn't give a fuck.

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I have absolutely nothing to say about this. It has left me speechless.
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Topic soundsfunny more than stupid
Didnot believe it till I red full text ,School is proving itself everyday as Stupid,Maybe ?
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SoulRiser Wrote:
Quote:“Displays of affection should not occur on the school campus at any time. It is in poor taste, reflects poor judgment, and brings discredit to the school and to the persons involved.”

They are saying this about affection. They're fucking insane. Cuckoo

I'm adding this article to the news section...

I can't believe the parents are only willing to go so far as to ask them to reword the policy...

You know what'd be cool? Everyone rebelling by hugging everyone in sight. That'd be awesome.

It just bothers me. The rule is so stupid! I have some friends who like to give a hug every now and then. I usually don't like giving hugs myself, more out of my shyness then rudeness, but I don't see what's wrong with a simple hug like that to express affection to a friend. What's wrong with that? Can't kids have any freedom in school?

LOL, yeah that would be great! Everyone hugging each other! That would drive them insane! They wouldn't know what to do!
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It just makes me sad to know that we live in a society that doesn't even allow kids to hug each other. Noo
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