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To everyone who joined these forums at some point, and got discouraged by the negativity and left after a while (or even got literally scared off): I'm sorry.

I wasn't good enough at encouraging people to be kinder, and removing people who refuse to be kind. Encouraging people is hard, and removing people creates conflict, and I hate conflict... so that's why I wasn't better at it.

I was a very, very sensitive teen. The atmosphere of this forum as it is now, if it had existed in 1996, would probably have upset me far more than it would have helped.

I can handle quite a lot of negativity and even abuse now, but that isn't the point. I want to help people. I want to help the people who need it the most, and I want to help people like the 1996 version of me.

I'm still figuring out the best way to do that, but as it is now, these forums are doing more harm than good, and I can't keep running them.

Thank you to the few people who have tried to understand my point of view so far. I really, really appreciate you guys. You are beautiful people.

Everyone else: If after everything I've said so far, you still don't understand my motivations, I think it's unlikely that you will. We're just too different. Maybe someday in the future it might make sense, but until then, there's no point in arguing about it. I don't have the time or the energy for arguing anymore. I will focus my time and energy on people who support me, and those who need help.

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Introducing myself.. I'm a 48 yr old mom of two kids who attend public school. I did my time in school including a BA from an esteemed university. It wasn't until it was my son's turn to attend school that I began recognizing just how much I had hated it too. He's 13 now and is diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome. I'm thankful about that.. He has been my opportunity to open my eye to what I feel is best for my kids.. NOT forcing them to be something I want them to be in the future.. but simply loving, nurturing and supporting them and who they are NOW. This includes kids who are strong enough to stand their ground even if it means the 'authorities' will give them consequences.. I think the revolution isn't in necessarily taking action.. but simply being YOU.. no matter what the voices outside have to say or try to do to change you into being a 'good little soldier'. Kid's who fail robot school are sending a message.. NOT all of us are robots. I'm probably a bit of a Nazi about this because I am the parent who isn't in cahoots with the 'I know what's best for children' club. This makes me a problem to all those 'teachers' who come into contact with my kids... No.. I think kids have more to teach adults.. I'm all for adults losing the illusion that we have power over kids..
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My jaded forumgoer mien wants me to shout, "Troll!", but the small shred of hope still inside me wants me to welcome you to this forum.

So welcome ;D

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Hey there. Assuming you aren't a troll (TRUSTING NO1 is a bit of a tradition around here, and unfortunately most accounts that seem to be like you are trolls), it's good to see a parent who's willing to give their kids more choices in their education.

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Hi there Smile

Quote:I think kids have more to teach adults.. I'm all for adults losing the illusion that we have power over kids..
I think everyone has something to teach people, it's just that people who think they already know everything have a bit of a hard time learning anything new. Razz

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Thanks for the welcome.. I'm no troll.. even sure what one is.. lol.. I guess it would be someone who is trying sabotoge the site? I can understand that.. I'm most certaing when I 'liked' this on my facebook page most of the adults I know cringed.. GOOD..

As far as everyone has something to teach.. I'm more on a path of 'unlearning'.. I think everything we need to know is inside.. call me a lunatic, but I feel this is what a child if anything can give the world most importantly.. Yet still.. I have two young children who I have chosen to attend public school for now. My son has also attended Montessori and unschooled/homeschooled too.. Montessori was the most Nazi by far so far.. Anyway.. I sort of look at it as a take it day by day thing.. and I've given a bit of 'variety' in experiences..


If I had to sum when I stand up in a sentence I would say I am not against school.. I'm just not for it.
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AutumnM Wrote:Montessori was the most Nazi by far so far..

Huh? I heard it's a good school.

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02-27-2011 01:07 AM
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Well.. I loved Marie Montessori's philosophy and this is why I choose to send my kiddo there. She had an alternative approach compared to what I knew about public school. I learned each Montessori school is very different and has it's own agenda.. So that has to be taken into consideration. The Accredited Montessori (accredited because many of them are not.. only using her name) school near us is also near a major american university.. Most of the people who sent their children to this school were professors (many education professors) who teach college students to be public educators.. OXYMORON Needless to say.. twas my experience that they were success whores by far more than my little public school down the road. They where pushers.. extreme pushers. I realize this is not necessarily all the Montessori experiences.. but for someone who took her philosophy seriously it was a disappointment for me. My son argued with them about the fact that they didn't follow her philosophies.. and they just retorted with things like, "things have changed". I'm in no way against those who want to turn their child into the brightest and best machine.. Just not my agenda..
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^Your son sounds awesome! Being able to recognize hypocrisy is both a blessing and a curse. On one hand, he's way ahead of many of the "educated," on the other, he'll be ostracized quite a bit for it.

Welcome to SS! I'm glad you don't push your kids into being something they're not, and I'm happy to hear that you're open-minded to want to learn from the younger generation. But like Soulriser said, we can learn something from everyone.
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Hey! i am new here as well. guess I'll see you around!

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To each (not teach) their own..

I guess personally.. I see 'learning' a similar concept like school.. Not necessarily necessary.

If I 'know' anything.. It's that I have nothing to teach any of you! Yes

Hey SOS.. My Straight Jacket size is XXX! Laugh Cuckoo
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AutumnM Wrote:To each (not teach) their own..

I guess personally.. I see 'learning' a similar concept like school.. Not necessarily necessary.

If I 'know' anything.. It's that I have nothing to teach any of you! Yes

Hey SOS.. My Straight Jacket size is XXX! Laugh Cuckoo

You learn every day without realizing it. The "learning" you defined is not actual learning; it's indoctrination or just cramming shit into your brain for a test. Real learning happens through experience and is natural, though not always easy. It is necessary, though reading books and writing essays isn't necessary for it to occur.
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I don't disagree with your pov.. I'm more about possibilities. Opposite is every bit as possible regarding our opinions.. You're POV is very much the status quo.. doesn't mean it's the universal truth. Same with mine.. however I'm not interested in changing your mind. It's simply my own personal experience.. no one can change that as hard as they may try.
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Hi everyone here at the forum,
Me a newbie here at the forum, Wanna say Hello to all the community of the forum and have some friends here to talk about different topics and have some chat with them on different topics here.... Wanna spend nice time here at the forum..........

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