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I might be a bully
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I might be a bully

Hey!
(I'm Revofev, I just joined)
I was talking to one of my oldest best friends as I walked home from the bus, when we started talking about the kids on the bus. I told him how I love the bus and don't understand why some kids hate it, then he told me that he doesn't like it at all.
I asked him why, and he talked about how all of the kids on the bus are jerks and bullies, and doesn't like them. Then he started naming off kids he called bullies, and went on for quite a bit.
I was mad because I was friends with a lot of these kids, and thought some of them were MUCH nicer then the best friend I was talking to.
(Recently, I've been getting further away from this friend, because he hangs out with attention-hogging scene kids that I don't like and doesn't understand how to correctly socialize)
So am I a bully because I hang out with these kids, and I don't even know it? I don't think I'm mean to anybody, have never been given a detention/principal referral and even won an award for "Respect" back in elementary school. So am I?

"If you don't screw with the system, the system will screw with you" -Revofev

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Re: I might be a bully

Just because you hang around with these people that are deemed bullies, it does not make you a bully.

Revofev Wrote:doesn't understand how to correctly socialize

May I ask, how is he not correctly socialising?

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03-03-2011 08:24 AM
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Quote:May I ask, how is he not correctly socialising?
I worded that wrong. Nobody can incorrectly socialize.
It's just that he brings up inappropriate topics at incorrect times, is always out of the loop, brings up sensitive topics at TERRIBLE times (talks about sex near my grandparents, etc) and is very pushy.

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