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The Apathy
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My moms sending me away!!!!
Hey guys I really need some help. My mom says she is sending me away because I don't take school seriously (She thinks its the only "opportunity" she has to give me). She is saying that she'll have me stay in Mexico next time I go there which is next month.
Im upset because I can't seem to develope my character or have opinions that differ from hers without her getting upset.
You know I honestly would feel a lot better if I knew this was a bluff but she acts so dead serious I can't be sure. Any advice?
Who am I? That is irrelevant.
What am I here for? That will become apparent.
You can call me Apathy!
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akdonn
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Buy your mom some flowers and apologize. When she asks what you are apologizing for tell her: "every bad thing I've ever done!"
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 I'm sorry, I really have no experience with such... idiocy.
I'm sure others could help though. 
BTW, where do you live now, and where would stay in Mexico?
I highly suggest Mobb Deep's albums The Infamous and Hell on Earth, if you have not listened to it yet.
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Oh great a dumb ass parent...
I would for this time agree with adkonn...
Kiss her ass and say your sorry and all that because reason does not reach people like this...
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Quote:My mom says she is sending me away because I don't take school seriously (She thinks its the only "opportunity" she has to give me).
By "has to" do you mean it's the only opportunity she can give you, or is required to give you?
How does she think that making you stay in mexico is supposed to help?
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Where specifically is she sending you?
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Quote:By "has to" do you mean it's the only opportunity she can give you, or is required to give you
According to her school is the only opportunity she can give me. By not liking school aparantly I do something symbolic (saying no to a successfull life). All Im trying to do is retain some useful traits that school tries to take away like ambition, So that I may employ them when Im old enough to start my business
Quote:How does she think that making you stay in mexico is supposed to help?
She doesn't think its worth it to let me live in the US if I don't love school.
Who am I? That is irrelevant.
What am I here for? That will become apparent.
You can call me Apathy!
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Are you an immigrant or a born citizen? Either way, she's not the one who has the right to decide that, especially if you were born here. She can send you to mexico all she wants, she can even take away your passport. If you have a social security number, you can get back into the US any time you please.
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1, how old are you?
2. What state do you live in?
3. Why not Canada?
4. Are you mexican? Were you born here? Are you an Indian?
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Quote:According to her school is the only opportunity she can give me. By not liking school aparantly I do something symbolic (saying no to a successfull life). All Im trying to do is retain some useful traits that school tries to take away like ambition, So that I may employ them when Im old enough to start my business
Hmm. She doesn't sound like a reasonable person... 
So I guess you'll have to either do that flowers thing if you want to stay with her, or find somewhere else to stay, or pretend really hard that you absolutely really do like school, but that you're too "stupid" to do better at it. Or something. Kind of like this.
(you're not really stupid, as long as you know that deep down, you don't have to prove it to anyone else)
That last one may take a while to get her to believe if you've been openly insisting that you're smart and school is just crappy.
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I don't have enough information to really give you very good advice, but it seems possible that something else is going on here. Is your mom really depressed about something else and you are her means for getting it out? Have you done something else--besides making it plain that you don't like school--that has her back up?
I see this sometimes in the kids I work with; the parents seem to be unreasonable but there is something else going on that hasn't been stated up front. Does your mom threaten you a lot, or is she thinking she wants to move out of the country herself and is using you as her litmus test of whether it is a good idea. Are you the only kid, or are we talking about several kids and a dad who has abused your mom and is in jail.
I know these may seem like far-fetched possibilities but something doesn't seem right here and I'm nervous when somebody starts shouting "wolf, wolf, wolf" when it's really a basset hound...
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akdonn Wrote:I don't have enough information to really give you very good advice, but it seems possible that something else is going on here. Is your mom really depressed about something else and you are her means for getting it out? Have you done something else--besides making it plain that you don't like school--that has her back up?
I see this sometimes in the kids I work with; the parents seem to be unreasonable but there is something else going on that hasn't been stated up front. Does your mom threaten you a lot, or is she thinking she wants to move out of the country herself and is using you as her litmus test of whether it is a good idea. Are you the only kid, or are we talking about several kids and a dad who has abused your mom and is in jail.
I know these may seem like far-fetched possibilities but something doesn't seem right here and I'm nervous when somebody starts shouting "wolf, wolf, wolf" when it's really a basset hound...
Like the pic.
They in the sea being burnt, they in the burnt ship drowned.
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akdonn Wrote:I don't have enough information to really give you very good advice, but it seems possible that something else is going on here. Is your mom really depressed about something else and you are her means for getting it out? Have you done something else--besides making it plain that you don't like school--that has her back up?
I see this sometimes in the kids I work with; the parents seem to be unreasonable but there is something else going on that hasn't been stated up front. Does your mom threaten you a lot, or is she thinking she wants to move out of the country herself and is using you as her litmus test of whether it is a good idea. Are you the only kid, or are we talking about several kids and a dad who has abused your mom and is in jail.
I know these may seem like far-fetched possibilities but something doesn't seem right here and I'm nervous when somebody starts shouting "wolf, wolf, wolf" when it's really a basset hound...
Hey BASSIT HOUNDS ARE PRETTY FUCKING BADASS
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Ok, i dont know what to say, i like the flowers idea a lot.
Maybe, tell your mum htat oyu are looking at other options, like TAFE, University or Apprentiships, getting an appreteship isnt a bad thing, i dont know what there is in American though, so i can help you much there.
Maybe, try find a course that you could take, i know here, you can be 16 to take a TAFE course, which is good because if you dont do school that is a great alternative.
Maybe try something educational in another field other than school and sit down with your mum and have a chat.
What kind of business were you interested in running?
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Try showing your mom some wikipedia pages about school alternatives ?
And yeah, it does kinda sound like there's something else going on.
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I think her mom's going to send her to one of those gulag schools in Mexico.
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damn that sucks, how old are you? can u refuse? shit...
wahw, i cant believe im saying this, but nice pic akdonn, tis funny
i am me myself and i
we are very much the same
different types of entities
under one single name
Flock <3
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OmegaWolf747 Wrote:I think her mom's going to send her to one of those gulag schools in Mexico.
I highly doubt that. Spacey quoted her mom in saying that school was the only opportunity she could give her. It doesn't sound like her mother has the money to spend on private boot camp. It sounds like her mother is a Mexican immigrant, and she's sending her daughter to live with relatives. Her mother is pulling the "See how much you take for granted?" card.
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Re: My moms sending me away!!!!
if she's sending you to a gulag school, tear up your passport IMMEDIATLY!!!!! That way, you can't make it past the border.
If you are reading this, then you have no life
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Re: My moms sending me away!!!!
If she were sending you to a gulag school, then you may have to take drastic action to prevent this.
I hold it, that a little rebellion, now and then, is a good thing, and as necessary in the political world as storms in the physical.
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We want freedom by any means necessary. We want justice by any means necessary. We want equality by any means necessary.
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A liberation movement demands an expansion of our moral horizons, so that practices that were previously regarded as natural and inevitable are now seen as intolerable.
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