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hugs and grades

so me and my gf were talking today,and she said right after the teachers told us to stop hugging in the hallways
and we did stop,her grades dropped and so did my grades.this is a very interesting correlation.she said that it was kinda like positive reinforcement to her,and i have to agree since they made me happy and i'm more willing to do work if i'm happy.
so i'm thinking of writing a paper on how hugs are good for mental health and help with doing better in school,then i would show it to all the teachers and the principals and counciler,and get a petition of all the students to change this rule.

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Hugs and Education

One thing I like about South America is that you can still give kids hugs. In the USA, England, and I think Australia, it is prohibited to give a child a hug, even a crying child.

Imagine a child is crying and goes to someone for a hug. Then that person rejects them.

What does this to do a child? How does it affect the child's brain chemistry? His or her sense of security? Are there long term effects of not giving children hugs? I believe there are. I believe the countries that have made hugging children illegal are becoming more and more cold and inhumane. The children turn into adults who are more and more insecure on a deep level and they try to compensate in all kinds of ways. But there is nothing that can take the place of a simple hug when it comes to emotional security.
http://eqi.org/hugs.htm
i just found this,it is very true.

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i'm thinking of reporting to any media that will show it,and cause a huge uproar about this,maybe then the schools will
reconsider.

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MASCOUTAH, Ill. - Two hugs equals two days of detention for 13-year-old Megan Coulter. The eighth-grader was punished for violating a school policy banning public displays of affection when she hugged two friends Friday.


"I feel it is crazy," said Megan, who was to serve her second detention Tuesday after classes at Mascoutah Middle School.

"I was just giving them a hug goodbye for the weekend," she said.

Megan's mother, Melissa Coulter, said the embraces weren't even real hugs — just an arm around the shoulder and slight squeeze.

"It's hilarious to the point of ridicule," Coulter said. "I'm still dumbfounded that she's having to do this."

District Superintendent Sam McGowen said that he thinks the penalty is fair and that administrators in the school east of St. Louis were following policy in the student handbook.

It states: "Displays of affection should not occur on the school campus at any time. It is in poor taste, reflects poor judgment, and brings discredit to the school and to the persons involved."

Coulter said she and her husband told their daughter to go ahead and serve her detentions because the only other option was a day of suspension for each skipped detention.

"We don't agree with it, but I certainly don't want her to get in more trouble," Coulter said.

The couple plan to attend the next school board meeting to ask board members to consider rewording the policy or be more specific in what is considered a display of affection.

"I'm just hoping the school board will open their eyes and just realize that maybe they shouldn't be punishing us for hugs," Megan said.
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Quote:It states: "Displays of affection should not occur on the school campus at any time. It is in poor taste, reflects poor judgment, and brings discredit to the school and to the persons involved."
holy shit what the fuck is wrong with people.

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don't do it on just hugs do it on healthy relationships.

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i'm going to do it and if the school ignores it,then i will report it to the media.
anybody who finds websites that i could use please post them in this thread
tonight i'm gathering up websites,books,and looking for papers on hugs,then after i have read everything
i will start working on the paper,i will keep telling my progress.i feel that something big is going to happen
because of this,and i'm not kidding because i'm going to use every once of strength i have on this.
i will do everything in my power to make sure this gets the medias attention.so if i do happen to change
the school rules and other schools follow,then we would make progress,and could do something like this again to
change the schools.

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this is what i have for the title
HUGS?
Are They Good?Bad?Or Are The Teachers Jealous Because They Don't Get Any?
i have changed it to
HUGS?
Do They Belong In Schools?

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You do realize that the way you're presenting it here makes you seem like you're whining and bending the truth, right?

Many noobs would dismiss the correlation you found between hugging and grades as an excuse or some state of mind that you're manufacturing on your own out of which you need to "snap." They may also say that this is proof that intimate relationships are bad because they make you dependant on each other. This is all bullshit, of course, but most of the people where you live (and in general, it seems unfortunately,) are noobs and won't support you unless you present it more moderately.

That said, I guess you could try this. When it fails to help and your parents yell at you to stop having a girlfriend because it's bad, I suggest that you two stop communicating with each other, care even less about school and let your grades drop more; that would be really funny.
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Will Wrote:You do realize that the way you're presenting it here makes you seem like you're whining and bending the truth, right?

Many noobs would dismiss the correlation you found between hugging and grades as an excuse or some state of mind that you're manufacturing on your own out of which you need to "snap." They may also say that this is proof that intimate relationships are bad because they make you dependant on each other. This is all bullshit, of course, but most of the people where you live (and in general, it seems unfortunately,) are noobs and won't support you unless you present it more moderately.

That said, I guess you could try this. When it fails to help and your parents yell at you to stop having a girlfriend because it's bad, I suggest that you two stop communicating with each other, care even less about school and let your grades drop more; that would be really funny.
well the way i'm presenting it now is because i'm merely thinking,brainstorming,and not actually presenting opposite of what you
said,many ideas at first are like this they're dissorganized thoughts that can be organized in to a presentable way,and if i can write it good enough and get many people to back it up such aspsychologists,social workers,universities,and common people.
people may not dismiss it as much(yes it's seems like i'm dreaming here,but if you never try anything you will never accomplish anything)look at MLK,or Ghandi what they did may have seemed impossible at first but they never stopped and eventually they succeeded,and many others have done things that seemed impossible at first but they accomplished what they were trying to do.thanx for the
criticism it helped me.please if you think something needs to be corrected,say so it is very helpful
i think i will change the title to HUGS?do they belong in schools?
anybody who wishes to criticize me please do.

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You already know that most people will just dismiss what you say as stupid. If you make it satirical, people will not be so afraid of reading it.
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I think you should do it. But, don't be surprised if the school doesn't do anything about it, or even punishes you. The main reason they have that "no hugs" rule is so that people can't sue them if someone got "inappropriately touched" against their will while at school. (I wonder how often that ever happens?)

But I still think you should do it, especially to get the attention of everyone who still has some sense in their heads. Get them to help you. Take it to the press if you have to.

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