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Cautious or Unnessisary?
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Cautious or Unnessisary?

So, I decided to buy a Yearly bus pass instead of one each month [it costs less overall]. I walk into the office and ask the secretary if i can buy it and then i take out 250 dollars and its in cash, mostly twenties. As soon as I pull it out in cash she gets suspicious and asks if i stole the money from my parents and where did I get it.

She does not believe me and decides to call my house, where my parents tell her that they actually gave me the money. They were quite annoyed that she did not believe me.

So what do you think? Was it cautious or Unnessisary?

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That's completely unnecessary and discriminatory.
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y dusnt any1 thro things at ppl anymor? if sum1 did that to me they wud hav a stapler in there hed rite now...
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People who steal money don't buy bus passes with it...
They spend it on drugs or alcohol or something...not bus passes Cuckoo

So yeah, I think it was unnecessary.
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OK, 6more, we get it. Please stop.
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6moredetentions Wrote:y dusnt any1 thro things at ppl anymor? if sum1 did that to me they wud hav a stapler in there hed rite now...

Hmm, I think if I had of done that I would have actually gotten in much worse trouble. Assault with a deadly weapon?

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im just saying ppl need to start throwing things at ppl that piss them off...it solves alot of problems...
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It doesn't, even if they deserve it.
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My guess is that she's a complete noob or that she's worried that parents will sue her for selling a pass to someone who wasn't supposed to buy one. We only need to be worried about this because the legal system is stupid enough that people worry that it will occur.
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6moredetentions Wrote:im just saying ppl need to start throwing things at ppl that piss them off...it solves alot of problems...

It would just prove to the administration that much of what some of them think about us is actually true. In my opinion.

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I must say that carrying $250 in cash is a little odd, and if I were in that secretary's position, I would have called just to be sure. To tell you the truth, why wouldn't she call? It's not like she's going way out of her way or anything, it's just a simple call that will ease her mind. She shouldn't have assumed you'd stolen the money, but I can see why she would call your parents just to make sure something wasn't going on.

Couldn't you have gotten a check instead? Or at least a not from your parents or something?



P.S. I'd never go to school with more than 20 bucks. Ever.

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It's not that he was carrying that much money. It's the fact that he's a kid. And obviously, being a kid means you've obviously stolen it.
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Well, we don't have the secretary's side of the story so all we're doing is making assumptions here.

OP, did you ask her what she was thinking when she called your parents?

EDIT: Okay, I guess the OP did say the secretary asked if he/she had stolen the money. But still, for all she knew, he/she COULD have stolen the money. Why not call and make sure?

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The One Wrote:Well, we don't have the secretary's side of the story so all we're doing is making assumptions here.

OP, did you ask her what she was thinking when she called your parents?

No, and maybe your right it might be better for them to make sure I did not steal the money. But i assume she was thinking that I stole it or got it in an unjust way.

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It does suck that we live in a society where people have to be paranoid like that, but that's just the way it is right now.

I wouldn't take it personally. And I really doubt the secretary was being ageist or stereotyping. She was just doing her job.

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Totally discriminatory.

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How many kids steal that much money from their parents and take it to school to use for bus money? Srsly. If you had stolen money, why would you use it on something to save money? Some people just don't think Razz

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SoulRiser Wrote:How many kids steal that much money from their parents and take it to school to use for bus money? Srsly. If you had stolen money, why would you use it on something to save money? Some people just don't think Razz

Pretty funny that some adults find school education "free"
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There have been LOTS of crimes that don't make sense.

Just because they don't make sense, doesn't mean they aren't plausible.

Maybe we're not seeing something here. Maybe we haven't heard the whole story.

By saying she was being stereotypical (without hearing the whole story), we're doing the exact same thing. We haven't heard her side of the story.

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The situation sort of reminds me of this one store I went to (it was a small store in the middle of the town I live in). On the door was a sign: "No more than two unsupervised minors in the store at one time."

The thing they have in common is that they both have to do with the stereotype that teens are stealing, vandalizing little punks that need to be controlled.
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