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Being an asshole won't get you a girlfriend.
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SoulRiser
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Re: Being an asshole won't get you a girlfriend.
Some people with really low self esteem might fall for assholes too, because they don't really think they deserve better. Those cases are truly sad. But sluts and morons I don't particularly give a shit about... until they start spawning humans who have to put up with their shit.
Quote:Abuse, the gift that keeps on giving.
Sad but true. Thankfully, some people manage to snap out of that fucked up cycle.
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Re: Being an asshole won't get you a girlfriend.
hmm, that reminds me of an offspring song
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Re: Being an asshole won't get you a girlfriend.
If both of the people are bitches/assholes, then they deserve each other. Let them make themselves miserable with the misery of their miserable personalities.
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Re: Being an asshole won't get you a girlfriend.
The reason girls like assholes?
It's all physical attraction. I fucking hate it when girls only like guys because of how good they look. It makes us not-so-handsome people feel like crap.
Anyways, back on the subject: Most assholes are good looking and really tough. And they let those traits get to their head. They're so overwhelmed by those "awesome" characteristics, that they enjoy make people who aren't as handsome or tough feel like shit, so they can feel superior to everyone else.
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Re: Being an asshole won't get you a girlfriend.
Bob that is so fucking true men you hit it right on the nail my friend....
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Re: Being an asshole won't get you a girlfriend.
I dont know about that, i mean, when someone is being abused, it doesnt seem like a thing to do to go back into a situation where you want to be apart of that kind of lifestyle.
The One Wrote:My Theory On Why Some Girls Keep Going Back To Assholes:
You know what really sucks? Traumatic experiences at young ages become attractive in later years.
Guess who an (untreated) abuse survivor thinks is attractive? Abusers! Ding Ding Ding you win.
And then, if an abuse survivor marries (or not) an abuser and has children, guess what the abuser will do to the children!?! Omg, you are good at this game.
And even if the abuser leaves without ever even MEETING the child, the child will still grow up with only one parental figure (in most cases) and that remaining parental figure doesn't have any experience in being a good parent (because he/she didn't have a good childhood) and the child will STILL end up being attracted to a-holes who are abandoning just like their abusive abandoning parent that they never met.
I don't really understand WHY this is the way it is, and I'm by no means a doctor or psychiatrist, but this is the way abuse works. I've seen waaaay too many cases to be questioning this theory. Friends and family :( .
I guess this is kind of a rant, but all of this is true. In conclusion, if you were abused as a child, TALK to someone; a counselor, a psychiatrist, w/e. This can be treated.
Abuse, the gift that keeps on giving.
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Re: Being an asshole won't get you a girlfriend.
BobManPerson Wrote:The reason girls like assholes?
It's all physical attraction. I fucking hate it when girls only like guys because of how good they look. It makes us not-so-handsome people feel like crap.
Anyways, back on the subject: Most assholes are good looking and really tough. And they let those traits get to their head. They're so overwhelmed by those "awesome" characteristics, that they enjoy make people who aren't as handsome or tough feel like shit, so they can feel superior to everyone else.
you have yourself a very good point there, and i fully back you up on that because girls can be real mean sometimes.
What i hate is when the media tries to put out the image of 'the perfect woman', and then you have all these false expectation of what women look like, and what girls act like. Girls have puppy fat for a fucking reason dammit!
Why do they choose models who are tall and thin? Its terrible, they all look the bloody same, and noone cares. They might look 'hot' and all, but seriously, how many people in the 'real' world look like this?
The fact that people are triyng to create the 'perfect human' is rediculous.
i might have gone off-topic with this.
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Re: Being an asshole won't get you a girlfriend.
I have had a lot of relationships...I'm not boasting it's a fact (I'm actually self hating)
I have been called a Whore and Stuff but sometimes things don't work out,Which I can only find out if I go out with someone, At the minuite I am in a relationship and it's going pretty well because it's serious but I do have relationships which dont mean much (Which I find out later usually after a week)
Am I an Asshole?
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Re: Being an asshole won't get you a girlfriend.
No.
I;ve had a few relationships but they simply don't work out - because I'm simply phobic of commitment.
Whoa, it was never my intention to brag
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Hannyness Wrote:I'm simply phobic of commitment.
I do too.
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Fightschool Wrote:My classmates are almost always assholes. One of them keeps going on and on about how much he likes girls in the hope that one will be flattered. ...FAIL. We had to write poems with special criteria one day, so these 4 students keep writing about their future love lives. It's kinda annoying, but whats really annoying is the fact that they treat everyone like they're servants to them or that they should worship them. Then they write things like "Her shining eyes...BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH. No one will like you if you are an:
Asshole. Treat everyone like shit, and they just might not treat you like royalty. Weird isn't it?
Hypocrite. Eat a steak while protesting killing cows for food. Leave everything on in your home even when you're not there, and complain that people use too much electricity. You get the point.
Bragger. People LOVE hearing about how great your life is. At least those who brag think that.
That will be the end of my post here. These can be useful, but PLEASE don't insult anybody for being one of these. You have to coax them out of it. If that's possible.
Some girls like assholes. I believe these girls are called Dumb Bitchez.
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Legion Wrote:Fightschool Wrote:My classmates are almost always assholes. One of them keeps going on and on about how much he likes girls in the hope that one will be flattered. ...FAIL. We had to write poems with special criteria one day, so these 4 students keep writing about their future love lives. It's kinda annoying, but whats really annoying is the fact that they treat everyone like they're servants to them or that they should worship them. Then they write things like "Her shining eyes...BLAH BLAH BLAH BLAH. No one will like you if you are an:
Asshole. Treat everyone like shit, and they just might not treat you like royalty. Weird isn't it?
Hypocrite. Eat a steak while protesting killing cows for food. Leave everything on in your home even when you're not there, and complain that people use too much electricity. You get the point.
Bragger. People LOVE hearing about how great your life is. At least those who brag think that.
That will be the end of my post here. These can be useful, but PLEASE don't insult anybody for being one of these. You have to coax them out of it. If that's possible.
Some girls like assholes. I believe these girls are called Dumb Bitchez.
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Re: Being an asshole won't get you a girlfriend.
I could never get a girl because I respect them... 
I go to an all-boys school. One of the terms they use when they get a girlfriend is, and I quote, "bagging bitches" (EX. You never bag bitches). As if you were hunting or something. Just because I don't speak like that, I am weird. 
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Re: Being an asshole won't get you a girlfriend.
Nah, you're not weird, you're normal... everyone else is weird. 
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Re: Being an asshole won't get you a girlfriend.
Ariadnae Basilisk Wrote:I could never get a girl because I respect them...
I go to an all-boys school. One of the terms they use when they get a girlfriend is, and I quote, "bagging bitches" (EX. You never bag bitches). As if you were hunting or something. Just because I don't speak like that, I am weird.
Wait..you're a guy?
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lulz. I also kinda thought he was a she at first... something about that username. Not quite sure what, though. 
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Re: Being an asshole won't get you a girlfriend.
 I got this name off of Google after I searched "Snake Names".
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