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I remember reading this thread back in 2013 and I thought this was my thing. I mean polyamory sounded amazing... I mean you get to love more than one person! I thought it was just that simple... you can fall in love with more than one person, but after being in a relationship where I was cheated on, and having discovered many new people and ideas, I've learned that the idea of Polyamory is a lot more complex than just "I like 2 people" or "I want to have sex with many people"... for many people, this is what life really is like... and coming to terms with it, for me, was slightly difficult.

To have feelings with more than a single person is a bit difficult to describe... I mean one thing I feel when I think of spending my life with one person is not necessarily happiness but rather guilt... I feel when I dedicate myself to one person, I feel like I'm shutting myself away from the world, and I'm not giving my love to those that deserve it as well. And love to me is not just sexual love; but it also means compassion, respect, empathy, adventure, etc... and for me, the idea of giving it to just one person just feels strange. The idea of polyamory is not just rooted in simply loving more than one person, but it also has to do with what we feel love truly is; to me, the meaning of love was always made confusing to me, especially when I wasn't comfortable with the idea of my own sexual orientation, and I wasn't aware of the LGBTS spectrum.

For me, the idea of simply talking about love and my orientation is liberating; it gives me comfort when I wasn't the one that was wrong, but rather it was society at large. For me, it explains why I've constantly failed in closed mono-amorous dating relationships; it really isn't just for me. I suppose love is quite abstract, and it is what we make of it. For those in "normal" relationships, be free and enjoy them, because it would be pretentious for me to criticize it. It's just that I really can't feel for one person... I need more than one. Realizing my polyamory was liberating... I felt I didn't need to be constrained to these social norms anymore, I could truly "be".

That's what I have to say about this old thread. Good stuff, good stuff.
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Polyamory - Bob Dole - 03-25-2008, 06:21 AM
RE: Polyamory - SH☮TGUNHEⒶRT - 01-30-2012, 05:16 AM
RE: Polyamory - returnal - 01-30-2012, 03:49 PM
RE: Polyamory - UnschoolShqiponjë - 01-30-2012, 07:40 PM
RE: Polyamory - magikarp - 01-31-2012, 11:43 AM
RE: Polyamory - Aya - 05-31-2012, 11:05 AM
RE: Polyamory - thewake - 05-31-2012, 11:50 AM
RE: Polyamory - HeartofShadows - 06-04-2012, 03:35 PM
RE: Polyamory - Efs - 06-04-2012, 11:13 PM
RE: Polyamory - HeartofShadows - 06-05-2012, 01:52 AM
RE: Polyamory - 4r4b7 - 06-05-2012, 01:53 AM
Polyamory - MonkeyDerp - 12-05-2012, 05:29 AM
RE: Polyamory - Heil_Kaiba8921 - 12-05-2012, 08:36 AM
Polyamory - HeartoftheNorth - 12-10-2012, 11:12 AM
Polyamory - timf - 12-18-2012, 07:41 AM
Polyamory - SoulRiser - 12-18-2012, 08:15 AM
RE: Polyamory - timf - 12-19-2012, 04:03 AM
RE: Polyamory - SoulRiser - 12-19-2012, 05:53 AM
RE: Polyamory - James Comey - 07-03-2015 07:30 AM
RE: Polyamory - AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA - 07-12-2016, 01:45 PM
Polyamory - SoulRiser - 07-13-2016, 05:59 AM
Polyamory - brainiac3397 - 07-13-2016, 10:15 AM
Polyamory - James Comey - 03-19-2017, 03:36 PM
Polyamory - Avatar Korra - 03-20-2017, 03:40 AM
Re: Polyamory - Puchiko - 03-25-2008, 07:15 AM
Re: Polyamory - Darthmat - 03-25-2008, 07:38 AM
Re: Polyamory - SoulRiser - 03-25-2008, 09:03 AM
Re: Polyamory - Bob Dole - 03-25-2008, 09:31 AM
Re: Polyamory - SoulRiser - 03-25-2008, 10:08 AM
Re: Polyamory - youvebeenthunderstruck - 03-25-2008, 10:10 AM
Re: Polyamory - SoulRiser - 03-25-2008, 10:21 AM
Re: Polyamory - youvebeenthunderstruck - 03-25-2008, 10:25 AM
Re: Polyamory - Suicidal-kun - 03-25-2008, 10:33 AM
Re: Polyamory - Bob Dole - 03-25-2008, 10:57 AM
Re: Polyamory - cooltoonist - 03-25-2008, 01:08 PM
Re: Polyamory - deathrape - 03-25-2008, 01:19 PM
Re: Polyamory - Bob Dole - 03-25-2008, 01:28 PM
Re: Polyamory - Cory - 03-25-2008, 01:34 PM
RE: Polyamory - NightThoughts - 05-31-2012, 10:54 AM
Re: Polyamory - SoulRiser - 03-25-2008, 05:29 PM
Re: Polyamory - Trekkie_Aspie - 03-26-2008, 09:11 AM
Re: Polyamory - Bob Dole - 03-26-2008, 12:08 PM

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