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fragile-esteem
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how are we supposed to trust them?
on tuesday, my old teacher said to me: "Can you guess what I found." I knew what it was. I lost my diary at school. There is pages and pages of how I hate myself and hundreds and hundreds of pictures of skinny girls and daily records of calorie intake and w:h:b measurements. As well as h/w planning ect. Just a coping mechanism to me. I lost it because I was trying to be better, I was showing off that I knew the genitive case in latin (it was in the diary also) I had it out and then I guess I left it. I freaked and spent the whole next day looking for it. I thought nobody will open it they will just hand it in. But she opened it and "saw something which quite worried" her. And felt the need to embarass me further by showing another teacher. Then she said to me "We want to help you, but you've got to trust me," (pause a second: I had the most important exam of exam week began in less than 20 mins) how the hell could I trust her? How can you trust someone that plays with your mind like that? So I went to the exam and answer the first question and broke down in tears and put my head on the desk ignoring the rest. I hate her. 
butterfly kisses xxx
COMMUNISM is when you have two cows, the governement takes both and gives you the milk
SOCIALISM is when you have two cows and give one to your neighbour.
NEW DEALISM (is when things go wrong) is when you have two cows, the government takes both, shoots one and milks the other but then throws the milk away.
CAPITALISM is when you have two cows and then sell one to buy a bull.
FACISM is when you have two cows, the government takes both and sells you the milk.
NAZISM is when you have two cows, the government takes both and shoots you.
I typed: "end of the world" into google and saw the hiroshima bombing and 9/11, irony much.
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Zstriker
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Re: how are we supposed to trust them?
Yea, I know what you mean. It's not their place to read something personal like a diary. I don't even know you and i want to punch them in the face.
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I'm sorry your teacher embarrassed you like that. Considering that she read your private stuff, you don't have much reason to trust her. By reading your diary, she violated your privacy- you have every right to feel angry at her for that. She herself proved that you can't trust her.
You might not want to hear it, but your teacher is right that you should get help for your anorexia. Since you can't trust her, go to someone you can trust. I know the teacher made you so upset, but she does seem to want to help you out.
Basically, you have no reason to trust her, but do take her advice and get some help.
Oh, and feel better. 
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Re: how are we supposed to trust them?
Quote:We want to help you, but you've got to trust me
She reads your personal diary, and then has the nerve to ask you to trust her? She obviously has no idea what she's talking about.
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Re: how are we supposed to trust them?
People should learn not to interfere with stuff they're not a part of.
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I don't normally swear, but all I can say is fuck her. That is something you just don't do. I had a friend who went digging through my stuff and read my journal once, and I could never view her as a trustworthy person ever again. I wound up burning the thing and lost a lot of memories with it. I don't understand how anyone could do that with a clean conscience. It's filthy, selfish, rude, arrogant, and just.. wrong. I'm sorry your teacher is such a bitch.
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Hayley44 Wrote:I wound up burning the thing and lost a lot of memories with it.
I ceremoniously skipped ESOL and tore it page for page to peices losing all my drawings, latin hints, stupid doodles and h/w plans
butterfly kisses xxx
COMMUNISM is when you have two cows, the governement takes both and gives you the milk
SOCIALISM is when you have two cows and give one to your neighbour.
NEW DEALISM (is when things go wrong) is when you have two cows, the government takes both, shoots one and milks the other but then throws the milk away.
CAPITALISM is when you have two cows and then sell one to buy a bull.
FACISM is when you have two cows, the government takes both and sells you the milk.
NAZISM is when you have two cows, the government takes both and shoots you.
I typed: "end of the world" into google and saw the hiroshima bombing and 9/11, irony much.
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The next time she tells you to trust her, tell her it would help if she didn't read your personal effects, then immediately walk away. It'll work... or it will start a speech about how she only has your well being at heart and she only meant to do good... yeah right. Either way it will put her in her place.
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I dont mean to sound bitter, cold, or cruel, but I am,so thats how it comes out.- bill hicks
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part 2:
in the first "get together" where she tore me to peices and which results in me getting D in my most important subject and that teacher (who is 69) having to sit me on her knee in the physics base to reassure me that it was only one day and the next one wouldn't be as bad. So the day she dropped the bombshell that she had (done what felt like strip me and seen everything) she said she'd have a chat with me and the other teacher on tuesday.
So tuesday came, and i hid! And it worked. Then Wednesday still paranoid, I hid. Thursday I thought she's forgotten! score! But no :( she found me. (and this time 40 mins before I got my art results, they matter to me and I was in peices and burst into tears and that results in the teacher trying to calm me down and point out that I couldn't get higher because I hadn't finished anything.) So took me down and they spoke at me, didn't take in a word or say one. Next thing I knew they said, maybe you sjould go and see the counsellor!!!!!!!! NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I was too embarassed to explain that the ana unit hasn't discharged me as an outpatient (i broke the record I'm on 7 months) so now I have to go to her and she is nuts!
butterfly kisses xxx
COMMUNISM is when you have two cows, the governement takes both and gives you the milk
SOCIALISM is when you have two cows and give one to your neighbour.
NEW DEALISM (is when things go wrong) is when you have two cows, the government takes both, shoots one and milks the other but then throws the milk away.
CAPITALISM is when you have two cows and then sell one to buy a bull.
FACISM is when you have two cows, the government takes both and sells you the milk.
NAZISM is when you have two cows, the government takes both and shoots you.
I typed: "end of the world" into google and saw the hiroshima bombing and 9/11, irony much.
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I don't know you or the teacher and I feel like cunt-punting her now. Shit.
To a mind that is still, the whole universe surrenders. - Chuang-tzu
The quieter you become, the more you can hear. - Baba Ram Dass
The whole moon and the entire sky are reflected in one dewdrop on the grass. - Dogen
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In less words, I agree with strato.
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"You can fight with only 2 things, your wits and your weapons."-Zach Eckard
Soldier1-"Remember the Alamo!"
Soldier2-"Didn't everyone die at the Alamo?"
Soldier1-"Don't remember that part!"
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