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Losing the fire. And life stuff.
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Re: Losing the fire. And life stuff.

Comfort is very tempting. If I wanted to, I could just sit on my ass and play with my sites all day and probably never work a day in my life. But I don't wanna stay in one place all the time, I've got people I wanna see (in other countries)... and that lights a fire under my ass that gets me to do the required stuff to get there. So, I guess you need to want something badly enough to get a fire lit under your ass. And I don't think you can just pick something to "want" out of some catalog... these things tend to be rather random.

Actually, this just reminded me of something someone else said:
(and after a lot of searching, I eventually found it, and it isn't as epic as I remembered it to be)
Quote:What happens to a man who has an assured income? Surely, he deteriorates. Have you not noticed it? Watch a man who has an assured income and you will soon see how rapidly his mind is withering away. He may have a big position, a reputation for cunning, but the full joy of life is gone out of him.

But I noticed something similar in myself. When I worked every day, I didn't do much at all in my spare time and I was bored a lot. Now that I'm on holiday, I have SOOOO MUCH to do that I don't ever even want to sleep. It's like you fall into this pattern and you get used to it and then everything that doesn't fit in the pattern seems alien and you don't feel like doing it... but when there's no pattern, anything goes. I can do whatever I want and I want to do everything... not sure this is totally related, but it seemed relevant Razz

But yeah, I have to give up that patternlessness at least temporarily if I want to get to go overseas and stuff.

Anyways, do you have some kind of journal? Maybe you should keep one, just to write down what's going on in your head every now and then. Maybe you'll find some fire somewhere in there.

Quote:But that's my point. There are only goals. It's goal after goal after goal. I heard that Bruce Lee said to never set goals for yourself because that means you're only setting limits for yourself, but I can't help but have goals because that's exactly how the world works!

Goals are fine, as long as they're worth something to you... like, something that is actually important to you. Say for example I set a goal that I want to become a good friend... when do I accomplish this goal? Never, really... because there's always something to improve upon, and even if you do sort of "get there", you still have to stay there, or else you lose it again. The journey is usually more important, like liq3 said... and at the very least it's almost always more interesting.

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