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I wasn't good enough at encouraging people to be kinder, and removing people who refuse to be kind. Encouraging people is hard, and removing people creates conflict, and I hate conflict... so that's why I wasn't better at it.
I was a very, very sensitive teen. The atmosphere of this forum as it is now, if it had existed in 1996, would probably have upset me far more than it would have helped.
I can handle quite a lot of negativity and even abuse now, but that isn't the point. I want to help people. I want to help the people who need it the most, and I want to help people like the 1996 version of me.
I'm still figuring out the best way to do that, but as it is now, these forums are doing more harm than good, and I can't keep running them.
Thank you to the few people who have tried to understand my point of view so far. I really, really appreciate you guys. You are beautiful people.
Everyone else: If after everything I've said so far, you still don't understand my motivations, I think it's unlikely that you will. We're just too different. Maybe someday in the future it might make sense, but until then, there's no point in arguing about it. I don't have the time or the energy for arguing anymore. I will focus my time and energy on people who support me, and those who need help.
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schoolhater234
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I'm Free!
I was totally not expecting it. For a long time, I had huge arguments and fights about wanting to unschool with my parents. The fights kept going. I was planning to refuse for so long. I had no doubt in my mind that I would have to refuse and my parents wouldn't let me unschool.
So I asked if I could just have a calm conversation about it. We sat down and had a conversation about it. At first, my parents were very hostile to it and saying that they won't let me do it. One thing led to another that caused my parents to make a compromise.
They said I could unschool. But at first we are going to have it a little more structured. I'm guessing that as my parents see it working they will make it more and more less structured.
But I can't even describe the joy and freedom I'm feeling right now. I feel like I have all the possibilities of the world in my hands.
:-)
"Freely",
Schoolhater234
Aint no power like the power of the people cause the power of the people don't stop!
I destroy my enemies when I make them my friends.
- Abraham Lincoln
Come children and students abide by our rules
we'll send in the troops to recruit at your schools
and we'll tell you it's noble, we'll tell you it's cool
and you'll hear every word that we're saying
and there's room in the jails if the classrooms are full
for the times, they are not a-changin'
come mothers and fathers and friends of the slain
while we exploit your loses to fund our campaigns
we brought you the war, now there's no one to blame
you best hope the new leader ain't crazy
you can vote how you want but the outcomes the same
for the times, they are not a-changin'
- Ryan Harvey
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Darthmat
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Re: I'm Free!
Congrats!
I highly suggest Mobb Deep's albums The Infamous and Hell on Earth, if you have not listened to it yet.
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Re: I'm Free!
great job persuading your parents, im glad you were mature enough to sit down and have a civilised conversation.
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Sunbourn
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Re: I'm Free!
Quote:I was totally not expecting it. For a long time, I had huge arguments and fights about wanting to unschool with my parents. The fights kept going. I was planning to refuse for so long. I had no doubt in my mind that I would have to refuse and my parents wouldn't let me unschool.
So I asked if I could just have a calm conversation about it. We sat down and had a conversation about it. At first, my parents were very hostile to it and saying that they won't let me do it. One thing led to another that caused my parents to make a compromise.
They said I could unschool. But at first we are going to have it a little more structured. I'm guessing that as my parents see it working they will make it more and more less structured.
But I can't even describe the joy and freedom I'm feeling right now. I feel like I have all the possibilities of the world in my hands.
:-)
"Freely",
Schoolhater234
Good. Now go shit on the floor.
Who am I? Who are YOU?
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Michio-kun
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Re: I'm Free!
5 Wrote:Quote:I was totally not expecting it. For a long time, I had huge arguments and fights about wanting to unschool with my parents. The fights kept going. I was planning to refuse for so long. I had no doubt in my mind that I would have to refuse and my parents wouldn't let me unschool.
So I asked if I could just have a calm conversation about it. We sat down and had a conversation about it. At first, my parents were very hostile to it and saying that they won't let me do it. One thing led to another that caused my parents to make a compromise.
They said I could unschool. But at first we are going to have it a little more structured. I'm guessing that as my parents see it working they will make it more and more less structured.
But I can't even describe the joy and freedom I'm feeling right now. I feel like I have all the possibilities of the world in my hands.
:-)
"Freely",
Schoolhater234
Good. Now go shit on the floor.
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To a mind that is still, the whole universe surrenders. - Chuang-tzu
The quieter you become, the more you can hear. - Baba Ram Dass
The whole moon and the entire sky are reflected in one dewdrop on the grass. - Dogen
Great Faith. Great Doubt. Great Effort. - The three qualities necessary for training. - Zen saying
Possessing much knowledge is like having a thousand foot fishing line with a hook, but the fish is always an inch beyond the hook. - Zen saying
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SoulRiser
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Re: I'm Free!
Quote:They said I could unschool. But at first we are going to have it a little more structured. I'm guessing that as my parents see it working they will make it more and more less structured.
I hope that works out for ya.... what kind of structure did they have in mind?
Congrats on getting them to take you seriously though. 
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