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Quote: 1. It is a really bad idea, if things are bad at school because you are being harassed (sexually or otherwise) or bullied try changing schools rather than quitting.
2. It is so not worth it - if academics are hard for you see your school counsellor about a non-academic program, voluntarily set yourself back a grade, or get Learning Assistance (even if it is informally from a friend).
3. Drop outs have a harder time getting good, secure, decent paying jobs.
4. More and more entry level and trade specific jobs require a minimum of high school graduation.
5. Dropping out gives you a lot of free time, even if you get a full time job, you are more likely to get in to a self destructive rut including drugs and/or alcohol.
6. Pregnancy is not a good reason to drop out and get a job, look in to your options before taking such a drastic step (many schools and communities have programs designed to keep teens with children in school).
7. Being a drop out is much harder than you think it will be.
8. Going back to school as an adult is not as easy as you think it will be, and often costs you money - high school is free.
9. Contrary to popular belief 16 is not a magic age at which dropping out is OK - many states make it a civil crime to drop out before 18 and many have laws against truancy (unexplained absences from school).
10. Dropping out is not cool, it does not make you a tough guy, nor does it mean you are grown up or more mature - in fact it makes you the exact opposite of all these things.
I lol'd. My favorite reason on here is #5. DON'T DROP OUT, YOU'LL HAVE TO MUCH TIME ON YOUR HANDS. God forbid we have control of our lives...
I found this at: http://teenadvice.about.com/od/factshee ... ropout.htm
I can't find anything on my state's Dept. of Education website about the legal age required to drop out of school... Trying to find it on google...
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Quote:5. Dropping out gives you a lot of free time, even if you get a full time job, you are more likely to get in to a self destructive rut including drugs and/or alcohol.
LOL
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Quote:5. Dropping out gives you a lot of free time, even if you get a full time job, you are more likely to get in to a self destructive rut including drugs and/or alcohol.
Yes, like the person who came up with this list. Some seriously potent shit they must have been on.
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|55555| Wrote:Quote:5. Dropping out gives you a lot of free time, even if you get a full time job, you are more likely to get in to a self destructive rut including drugs and/or alcohol.
LOL
I lol'd as well.
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meh.
I am a drop out, and I know I do have WAY to much time on my hands.
Granted, I fell into drugs and alcohol before that ever happened, so Idk if this would make anyone else do it.
xD
:-P
That is all.
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what about all the people with great paying jobs who do drugs?
What about people who are still at school and do drugs?
What about the people who dropped out and DONT do drugs?
who came up with this bullshit?
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Quote:10. Dropping out is not cool, it does not make you a tough guy, nor does it mean you are grown up or more mature - in fact it makes you the exact opposite of all these things.
Wow, fail.
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cooltoonist Wrote:Quote:10. Dropping out is not cool, it does not make you a tough guy, nor does it mean you are grown up or more mature - in fact it makes you the exact opposite of all these things.
Wow, fail.
Yes sir, it is.
The so-called Teen advice is a bit biased, I think.
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why would anyone drop out of school to look 'cool'?
"People often compete to be considered right rather than collaborating to find the real answer."-Will.
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Quote:5. Dropping out gives you a lot of free time, even if you get a full time job, you are more likely to get in to a self destructive rut including drugs and/or alcohol.
I did not lol. I cringed. This 'advice' is clearly written from a biased and stereotyped viewpoint, and it's rather startling that having free-time is stereotypically bad.
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Anyone who tries to give teens advice, when the teen did not ask for it is a moron. This list of advice does not apply to the majority, and most of the assumptions made on it are rediculous and nonsensical.
Epic fail for the author.
I wouldn't be surprised if the author taught health class and posted on some sort of religious forums where they preached parents spying on their kids.
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aewanko Wrote:cooltoonist Wrote:Quote:10. Dropping out is not cool, it does not make you a tough guy, nor does it mean you are grown up or more mature - in fact it makes you the exact opposite of all these things.
Wow, fail.
Yes sir, it is.
The so-called Teen advice is a bit biased, I think.
Yep, that made an assumption that the main reason people drop out because of image; to look cool or mature. That's pure ignorance. Teenagers need freedom and independence. Self-reliant and about time they drop out from a system that constantly bombards them with "It's good to listen to instructions..." Ga- ga. They want to do things their way. Now that's being mature, putting your life, mind, soul, and body in your hands.
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Droping out would be horrible! Oh my gosh you would have control over your own life! How scary...
Had to move on. Account is dead.
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I may have gotten over this by now, but I was shocked when I learned that everyone in one of the top universities on the planet (whatever that means) drinks and smokes (normally something other than tobacco) quite regularly.
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Will Wrote:I may have gotten over this by now, but I was shocked when I learned that everyone in one of the top universities on the planet (whatever that means) drinks and smokes (normally something other than tobacco) quite regularly.
Didn't surprise me that much. People need a outlet or they go insane. True fail to the author.. He deserves to be forcefed anti school videos for 38 hours straight.
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|55555| Wrote:Quote:5. Dropping out gives you a lot of free time, even if you get a full time job, you are more likely to get in to a self destructive rut including drugs and/or alcohol.
LOL
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That is silly.
Quote:you are more likely to get in to a self destructive rut including drugs and/or alcohol.
Oh really. Sources? Statistics? Anything?
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This teen advice list are included programs for teens in some boarding school or boot camp. If you are thinking to drop out. keep in mind that drop outs have a harder time getting good, secure, decent paying jobs.
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Coma Girl Wrote:What about people who are still at school and do drugs?
Me!~~~ They actually make school a little more tolerable
Someone dear to me once said "We are the light." But, if that's true, then why am I still searching?
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Thade Wrote:Coma Girl Wrote:What about people who are still at school and do drugs?
Me!~~~ They actually make school a little more tolerable
This person didn't stop to think that the shitty school system is more likely to make someone do drugs than dropping out and letting them take control of their own lives. People aren't that stupid; they can choose what to do with their free time without doing shit.
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This teen advice list are included programs for teens in some boarding school or boot camp. If you are thinking to drop out. keep in mind that drop outs have a harder time getting good, secure, decent paying jobs.
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This teen advice list are included programs for teens in some boarding school or boot camp. If you are thinking to drop out. keep in mind that drop outs have a harder time getting good, secure, decent paying jobs.
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krissy Wrote:This teen advice list are included programs for teens in some boarding school or boot camp. If you are thinking to drop out. keep in mind that drop outs have a harder time getting good, secure, decent paying jobs.
'Sup spambot.
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TBH I showed up too school for about 2 years high off my ass on Vicodin and nobody said a thing. I still show up on massive amounts of caffine pills and nobody notices shit
As for this list, it's propaganda, we should make some better stuff.
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5 and 10 both make me feel especially like I'm going to throw up.
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The Desert Fox Wrote:'Sup spambot.
Sorry dessert fox, I am m not a spambot. I just share my opinion and comment in the list.
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uuum
So, like, I quite public high school when I was 16 (and since I lived in texas, that meant I was home-schooled by default!) and i've never done any illegal drugs and I've had like 3 drinks of alcohol ever.
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krissy Wrote:The Desert Fox Wrote:'Sup spambot.
Sorry dessert fox, I am m not a spambot. I just share my opinion and comment in the list.
I see
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krissy Wrote:dessert fox,
Mmm, flambéed vulpine.
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Faby Wrote:krissy Wrote:dessert fox,
Mmm, flambéed vulpine.
I often wonder if people, when they do, intentionally misspell the "desert" part of my username, or if it's a genuine accident. I mean, it is kinda easy to put an extra s in there, but I wonder.
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