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Unnecessary Hair Rules
This was posted on another forum, about a person ranting about their school's rules about hair. Take some time to read it, because you may find it intresting.
Quote:I just really wanted to share this.
It bugged me and drove me crazy today...
Okay, I always wear my hair in my face, it's just what I prefer,
I hate having my hair out of my face, and so my principle has
been hating my hair since I came to school, and every time I
came around and she saw me she would either, yell.
"Hair, hair, hair!" At me in till I moved my hair out of my face.
Or she'll grab the top of my head and push down on it, and
not lightly either, she'll push and it hurts.
So today, I was going to music (we have music on Fridays
in the morning) so I was walking and she grabs me right before
I get into the room and yells at me, "Hair hair hair!" so I move it
and start to walk in, and she grabs me again. She says, "No
that isn't enough, go down to the girls restroom and learn how
to part your hair!" So I go down, and I'm in the bathroom for
about 10 minutes (yes, I know how to part my hair I just didn't
feel like seeing her at that moment) and so I come out and
ask her politely, "Can you please stop touching my head? It
hurts," and she says to me, "Stop your back talking!" and I was
like... " ?? back talking?"
And then later, I let my hair go back into my face, because I
had just leaned over, and she at that moment walks into the
classroom, and she looks at me like she was about to throw
a fit... I'm just getting sick of her touching my head, and
telling me what to do with my hair, It's a free country, and
I can read just fine out of the eye that's covered with hair
but she insists I can't even when I prove I can.
I'm not looking for sympathy, you don't have to reply if you don't
want too, I just wanted to vent, and no, I know this is a stupid
reason to get upset, but it's just the fact that she insists I'm
back talking when I'm just asking her if she can stop touching
my head, and then on top of that, it hurts, and she doesn't seem
to realize that.
So, what does everyone think? Very unfair? The school is allowing actually yanking hair to where its out of the students' eyes. One day, if one of them did it hard enough, they could easily rip out a clump of hair. Opinions?
" I never knew until that moment how bad it could hurt to lose something you never really had. " ~From the television show The Wonder Years
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Illegal?
if someone did that to me i'd friggin punch them in the face.
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matty555 Wrote:Illegal?
if someone did that to me i'd friggin punch them in the face.
Actually apparently legal. According to the school system anyway.
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Heh the school system...
If i was that girl I would seriously slap that headteacher.
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Me too, but i believe she's in elementary/middle. Not really brave enough. And her parents even ignore her when she tries to tell them about the problem. I feel bad for her.
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My high school had a rule that you had to shave. If you were caught with facial hair, they'd send you to the office to shave. I don't think anybody has ever resisted, but I guess you'd get a write-up for non-compliance.
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Here, we can do whatever we want with our hair...
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Girl I take it? Hmm.
At my old schools you couldn't style it. For guys it couldn't go past your ears, get in your eyes, etc. No rat tails, pony tails and the like, incidentally only for white guys. Black guys could do whatever they felt like to their hair. No outlandish facial hair. Girls couldn't have hair past their breasts either.
If you infracted these rules, they actually sent you down to ROTC to get it lopped off. Oddly enough, Cheif Hendrin thought the rules were bull shit (she said this to my face too) , and need only apply to ROTC.
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Harsh rules at your old schools. Its really unfair how far they take it. This girl wasn't even at a private school, where strict hair rules would be understandable. Chiisu, all i can say is " wow " to that. Total rasim right there.
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Send her a pm and link her here.
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She's a military woman and a high-school teacher. So... No?
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Oni-Chiisu Wrote:She's a military woman and a high-school teacher. So... No?
Where did it say that?
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Oni-Chiisu Wrote:She's a military woman and a high-school teacher. So... No?
i think he meant the girl in the first post.
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Oni-Chiisu Wrote:She's a military woman and a high-school teacher. So... No?
Your post..confuses me.
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I don't understand why schools makes such a big deal out of these things. It's just fucking hair.
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chemistry_hater Wrote:I don't understand why schools makes such a big deal out of these things. It's just fucking hair.
Exactly.
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Speaking of hair, there's this guy at my school who always had his hair in his face. Nobody says anything. But one day he put it back because the teacher told him to. I'm not sure but I saw him step out of the class with the teacher with his hair in his face and when he came back in, it was pulled back (and he NEVER does that).
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random_name Wrote:Oni-Chiisu Wrote:She's a military woman and a high-school teacher. So... No?
i think he meant the girl in the first post.
Yeah, I jsut figured that out D:
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Oni-Chiisu Wrote:random_name Wrote:Oni-Chiisu Wrote:She's a military woman and a high-school teacher. So... No?
i think he meant the girl in the first post.
Yeah, I jsut figured that out D:
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Pieman Wrote:chemistry_hater Wrote:I don't understand why schools makes such a big deal out of these things. It's just fucking hair.
Exactly.
At my high school they said it's a distraction. When I was in college, there were people with every color of hair imaginable, and revealing/wacky clothing. None of that was a distraction, or a big deal to anyone, and there was no dress code.
The real distraction is a teacher stopping in the middle of class just to embarrass someone by pointing out their hair/earings/shirt/pants/skirt/dick/jacket is breaking the dress code or something. It creates unnecessary stress for people, and honestly these rules are just immature. If I was a teacher I wouldn't care about that shit ... gimme a break. Some administrators need to grow the fuck up and quit acting like the kids they criticize.
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Stratovarius Wrote:The real distraction is a teacher stopping in the middle of class just to embarrass someone by pointing out their hair/earings/shirt/pants/skirt/dick/jacket is breaking the dress code or something.
wut
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Stratovarius Wrote:The real distraction is a teacher stopping in the middle of class just to embarrass someone by pointing out their hair/earings/shirt/pants/skirt/dick/jacket is breaking the dress code or something.
wtf
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Stratovarius Wrote:At my high school they said it's a distraction. When I was in college, there were people with every color of hair imaginable, and revealing/wacky clothing. None of that was a distraction, or a big deal to anyone, and there was no dress code.
The real distraction is a teacher stopping in the middle of class just to embarrass someone by pointing out their hair/earings/shirt/pants/skirt/dick/jacket is breaking the dress code or something. It creates unnecessary stress for people, and honestly these rules are just immature. If I was a teacher I wouldn't care about that shit ... gimme a break. Some administrators need to grow the fuck up and quit acting like the kids they criticize.
That was nicely said Strat. but, honestly.. ?
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I kind of figured people would shit a brick over that.
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I'm suddenly reminded of something rather stupid, thanks, Strat...
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@Strat: lol
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Oni-Chiisu Wrote:I'm suddenly reminded of something rather stupid, thanks, Strat...
Please share. May cause lulz.
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I love how this thread got completely derailed after Strat slipped in "dick"
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/Re-rails thread
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i smell a LAWSUIT i would definitely sue this fascist bitch. i'll bet she goes to private school there is absolutely no way a public school principal would do this. even if it's private school its still child abuse and therefore a lawsuit could be filed.
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