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Everyone uses their friends - accept it

You use their friends, whether you consciously do it, or subconsciously do it is a different matter.

You use them to have fun, to share your feelings, as a shoulder to lean on. Someone to turn to when things go bad.

You use them all the time, deal with it.
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I wish I wasn't so sleepy, as I would write a nice long post over why I agree with you and add supporting evidence to strengthen your point. I guess I should spend more time doing that.
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01-28-2009 04:17 PM
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Lol, I'm sleepy too, kinda.
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Yes, I use my friends as a shoulder to lean on. They use me as that in return. I enjoy this, and I don't see a problem with it.
01-28-2009 05:43 PM
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Nah, it's just that some people are pissing me off by saying their completely and totally perfect, I prove them wrong and then they come up with some bullshit reason to drag their friends into the mix, I pull this point and they refuse. Just plain refuse.
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By your definition of using then, we use everyone.

And I agree.
01-29-2009 03:15 AM
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yes, i do. but i try not to as much as possible.
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Everyone uses the air, they use it for making fire and inhale it greedily.
Everyone uses their genitalia, they piss out of it and then hide it from the world as if they are ashamed of it.
Everyone uses their parents, like dimwits they invest money and time into their children just to have them leave and start their own family.

Just because there is no obstruction in your line of written logic, it does not give you free reign to abuse a true emotional relationship. Sure we use our friends for all those things you describe, but does a good honest person truly use his friends as he does partake in the human bond that is friendship.
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01-30-2009 02:13 AM
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i like that first part of yur post.
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"A 'no' uttered from deepest conviction is better and greater than a 'yes' merely uttered to please, or what is worse, to avoid trouble." - Mahatma Gandhi

"The irrationality of a thing is no argument against its existence, rather a condition of it."

"Beer is proof that God loves us and wants us to be happy."
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"when I was a kid I used to pray for a bicycle. then I realized that god doesn't work that way. so I stole one and prayed for forgiveness."
"I would rather die for something I believe in than live for anything else."
"What is the task of higher education? To make a man into a machine. What are the means employed? He is taught how to suffer being bored." – F W Nietzsche
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I hate Maths now. I can't even understand the teacher.
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火 Wrote:I hate Maths now. I can't even understand the teacher.

what has this to do with using your freinds?
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"A 'no' uttered from deepest conviction is better and greater than a 'yes' merely uttered to please, or what is worse, to avoid trouble." - Mahatma Gandhi

"The irrationality of a thing is no argument against its existence, rather a condition of it."

"Beer is proof that God loves us and wants us to be happy."
-Ben Franklin

"when I was a kid I used to pray for a bicycle. then I realized that god doesn't work that way. so I stole one and prayed for forgiveness."
"I would rather die for something I believe in than live for anything else."
"What is the task of higher education? To make a man into a machine. What are the means employed? He is taught how to suffer being bored." – F W Nietzsche
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I have no fucking idea.
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lol... come to think of it, i hate mmy maths teacher too....
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"A 'no' uttered from deepest conviction is better and greater than a 'yes' merely uttered to please, or what is worse, to avoid trouble." - Mahatma Gandhi

"The irrationality of a thing is no argument against its existence, rather a condition of it."

"Beer is proof that God loves us and wants us to be happy."
-Ben Franklin

"when I was a kid I used to pray for a bicycle. then I realized that god doesn't work that way. so I stole one and prayed for forgiveness."
"I would rather die for something I believe in than live for anything else."
"What is the task of higher education? To make a man into a machine. What are the means employed? He is taught how to suffer being bored." – F W Nietzsche
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Bin this shit, it's become irrelevant, or just bin those posts. I disagree heavily, you act as if friend engage in a form of parasitism, while I say it's closer to a mutually beneficial relationship, as long as both are being used equally, then it's alright. If I ask you for a few bucks this week and next week, but a few weeks later, you ask me for some cash, where's the problem?
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do we even have a bin to put it in?
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"A 'no' uttered from deepest conviction is better and greater than a 'yes' merely uttered to please, or what is worse, to avoid trouble." - Mahatma Gandhi

"The irrationality of a thing is no argument against its existence, rather a condition of it."

"Beer is proof that God loves us and wants us to be happy."
-Ben Franklin

"when I was a kid I used to pray for a bicycle. then I realized that god doesn't work that way. so I stole one and prayed for forgiveness."
"I would rather die for something I believe in than live for anything else."
"What is the task of higher education? To make a man into a machine. What are the means employed? He is taught how to suffer being bored." – F W Nietzsche
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Exactly.
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