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Absnt
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Self-Reflection
I'm an introvert. I reflect constantly, and I've accidentally developed a method for it. You have to pick one topic, and explore it within your mind. You have to try to draw conclusions and not just pose questions. There's no way I can explain exactly how to self reflect, but I think it comes naturally to most people.
Self-Reflection is the exploration of yourself. It's important, without it you don't know who you are or what you want. I believe, without self-reflection, people make decisions that they regret. Once you decide on something while reflecting, peruse it, and don't give yourself the option of not getting it unless you self-reflect and HONESTLY do not want to obtain that goal anymore. Giving yourself an option of weather or not to achieve what you want is a bad idea.
I've reflected for hours, upon hours at a time before. It's difficult, and you have to discern what you want among the vast amount of emotions you have.
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Re: Self-Reflection
To add to this... The more time you spend alone/sitting around, the more time you have to self-reflect. I've noticed people who are really busy rarely ponder. Let's just say I sit at home a lot, and my mind tends to wander. Thus, I'm a lot more certain of my position in the world. Many kids I talk to admit they have no clue where they stand. They "just don't have time to think about."
You come to some pretty unexpected conclusions once you calmly analyze what you want/who you are. It's hard to explain, but it's quite fulfilling.
"Oppressed people might overthrow their tyrants, but not if they can count on one day joining the oppressors."
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Re: Self-Reflection
I've noticed some people actually make themselves "busy" on purpose just so that they can avoid accidentally self-reflecting about something.
Posing questions actually helps me to find conclusions... I mean, I'd start out with a general question... say for example "Why does X make me so angry?" then I'll drill down to more and more specific things, like "Why does it bother me that X says Y about Z?" to which the answer might be something like "Because I'm insecure about Y because I do it too"... or whatever. It's kind of funny how the "problem" is almost always something to do with my perspective... 
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Re: Self-Reflection
Absentinsomniac Wrote:who you are
What do you mean by "who you are"?
Let go of all desire for the common good, and the good becomes common as grass.
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Disaster lurks within good fortune;
Who can say how things will end?
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Re: Self-Reflection
Faby Wrote:Absentinsomniac Wrote:who you are
What do you mean by "who you are"?
I mean, you don't know yourself. You haven't discovered why you do things, what you like, and all of the other things about yourself. Strangely enough, other people, if you're close to them, may know more about yourself then you do unless you reflect enough.
I think.
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Re: Self-Reflection
Absentinsomniac Wrote:I mean, you don't know yourself. You haven't discovered why you do things, what you like, and all of the other things about yourself. Strangely enough, other people, if you're close to them, may know more about yourself then you do unless you reflect enough.
I think.
Psychologists actually agree with this: http://eurekalert.org/pub_releases/2011 ... 050511.php
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