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Re: Good ideas at heart, but I find a bit story

Memento Mori Wrote:Deadlines won't help. It makes the student think about actually getting it turned in, not about learning. And the fact that everyone has their own pace.

See, I disagree here. I used to think that exact same thing as you. But this is an opinion of mine that really changed after college

The reason why a deadline makes a difference is because you will really, really force yourself to do the hard undesireable parts of the learning and not just the fun and satisfying parts. And yes, there is always that hard, annoying part of learning. Everyone has their own pace, but you might not ever realize what that pace is until you are pushed to the point where you can't go any further.

Deadlines make a difference also because of how MUCH you can learn.

And it's not just deadlines. It's other things. For example, research. Real, true research. I firmly believe you will learn more doing research than you will ever learn in any lecture. I did undergrad research for 2 years and it made me think completely different. It was amazing and completely self paced. Unfortunately this really is an opportunity you will only get on a college campus! At least, scientific research. I am not even sure how to describe how it makes you learn. It just does. You kind of learn the "why" behind what you are reading in the books when you are doing research.
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