School is going to be the death of me

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To everyone who joined these forums at some point, and got discouraged by the negativity and left after a while (or even got literally scared off): I'm sorry.

I wasn't good enough at encouraging people to be kinder, and removing people who refuse to be kind. Encouraging people is hard, and removing people creates conflict, and I hate conflict... so that's why I wasn't better at it.

I was a very, very sensitive teen. The atmosphere of this forum as it is now, if it had existed in 1996, would probably have upset me far more than it would have helped.

I can handle quite a lot of negativity and even abuse now, but that isn't the point. I want to help people. I want to help the people who need it the most, and I want to help people like the 1996 version of me.

I'm still figuring out the best way to do that, but as it is now, these forums are doing more harm than good, and I can't keep running them.

Thank you to the few people who have tried to understand my point of view so far. I really, really appreciate you guys. You are beautiful people.

Everyone else: If after everything I've said so far, you still don't understand my motivations, I think it's unlikely that you will. We're just too different. Maybe someday in the future it might make sense, but until then, there's no point in arguing about it. I don't have the time or the energy for arguing anymore. I will focus my time and energy on people who support me, and those who need help.

-SoulRiser

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James Comey

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RE: School is going to be the death of me

Therapists are hit and miss. My experience is that they're at least helpful in expressing feelings and having a safe space, but how effective they'll be in long term planning is one thing to consider.

Anyway, it sucks to hear your situation is so bad. I used to feel the same way where practically every day was torture for me, I hated school. I had the same anxiety issues from back then and it made it much more difficult than it should have been.

Parents can be really stubborn but I think if you really showed them how bad it is for them, you might just start nudging them a bit... change in mind doesn't happen overnight.

If I may ask, what is your sleep and diet routine? What do you do in your free time? School sucks but there are ways to make it suck less by improving the quality of your life and making the most of your time.

EDIT: Moved to School Talk