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Brainwashing and how to avoid it
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Brainwashing and how to avoid it

This'l mostly be a collection of links and quotes; there are a lot of resources on the net, and I prefer giving credit where it is due.

I think teens, pre-teens and adults who haven't yet struck out on their own are at risk of being brainwashed by their schools, other institutions of "authority", and their families. There are a lot of people trying to sink their claws into the minds of young people, because to them we are just a resource to be used to their ends. I hope this helpsSmile

Wikihow-How to recognize and avoid brainwashing

Quote:Understand that those who attempt to brainwash others tend to prey upon the weak and vulnerable. Not everyone is a target for mind control, but certain people are more susceptible to forms of it at different times. A skillful manipulator knows what to look for and targets people who are going through a difficult period in their life or a change that may or may not be of their own making. Possible candidates include:
People who have lost their jobs and fear for their future.
Recently divorced people, particularly when the divorce was a bitter one.[3]
Those suffering from lingering illness, especially one they don’t understand.
People who have lost a loved one, particularly if they were very close to that person and had few other friends.
Young people away from home for the first time. These are particular favorites of religious cult leaders.[4]
One particular predatory tactic is to find out enough information about the person and his or her belief system to explain the tragedy the person has experiencing in a manner consistent with that belief system. This can later be expanded to explain history in general through that belief system, while subtly modifying it to the brainwasher’s interpretation.

This website goes into detail. In short, the steps involved in brainwashing someone are:
Quote:1. Isolation
2. Monopolization of Perception
3. Induced Debility & Exhaustion
4. Threats
5. Occasional Indulgences
6. Demonstrating “Omnipotence”
7. Enforcing Trivial Demands
8. Degradation

It's scary how well school (in hindsight) and my family followed these steps.
Here are some more that I can remember now:

1. The "You brought this on yourself"
The abuser/brainwasher inflicts the so-called "consequences of your actions" onto you; only, these are arbitrary punishments they have set. They are not natural consequences of anything, as your abuser wants you to think.

2. The "Do not make me punish you"
Like the above one, nobody is making them do anything. Nobody is forcing them to punish you. These are actions they have taken on their own.

Both of the above tactics are designed to make you accept a reality that does not exist - where the one abusing you is god; where their words are the truth.

Don't play chess with pigeons-they'll just knock over the pieces, shit on the board and strut about like they won anyway.
-the Internet

Quote:May the days and months of flowing bitterness be rewarded...
To forget!?

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