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To everyone who joined these forums at some point, and got discouraged by the negativity and left after a while (or even got literally scared off): I'm sorry.

I wasn't good enough at encouraging people to be kinder, and removing people who refuse to be kind. Encouraging people is hard, and removing people creates conflict, and I hate conflict... so that's why I wasn't better at it.

I was a very, very sensitive teen. The atmosphere of this forum as it is now, if it had existed in 1996, would probably have upset me far more than it would have helped.

I can handle quite a lot of negativity and even abuse now, but that isn't the point. I want to help people. I want to help the people who need it the most, and I want to help people like the 1996 version of me.

I'm still figuring out the best way to do that, but as it is now, these forums are doing more harm than good, and I can't keep running them.

Thank you to the few people who have tried to understand my point of view so far. I really, really appreciate you guys. You are beautiful people.

Everyone else: If after everything I've said so far, you still don't understand my motivations, I think it's unlikely that you will. We're just too different. Maybe someday in the future it might make sense, but until then, there's no point in arguing about it. I don't have the time or the energy for arguing anymore. I will focus my time and energy on people who support me, and those who need help.

-SoulRiser

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People, Conformity is NOT Maturity!
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RE: People, Conformity is NOT Maturity!

Another thought: my share of that maturity image on G+ has been viewed over 800 times, thanks to the conversation community. I wonder how people actually process a complex image like that.

It looks cool, but then what?

One item on the image that jumped out at me was "obsessed with questions." Does that have to be a "yellow"-coded item? I think it depends on the questions, where they come from, and how answers are pursued and used.

Being "obsessed with facts" is coded green... but what if the facts are incorrect, or misinterpreted?

I think that asking good questions, and being able to understand the purpose of questions, is an important part of developing into a complete person.

How might a chart like this be used as part of a "lesson" or just as a catalyst for conversation?

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People, Conformity is NOT Maturity! - Ky - 12-02-2013, 08:00 AM
RE: People, Conformity is NOT Maturity! - xcriteria - 12-02-2013 01:59 PM

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