"Respect is mutual, otherwise it is fear or obedience"

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RE: "Respect is mutual, otherwise it is fear or obedience"

(04-16-2013 03:40 AM)SoulRiser Wrote: Sounds pretty accurate.

But you can respect someone who doesn't respect you specifically (like, if they don't even know you or whatever).

Not really, I'd argue that you're respecting their role and that the role gives them a certain amount of authority or ... wisdom ... perhaps.

For example, I have a tendency to automatically respect old ladies. Thing is, what I'm respecting that their advanced age means they are liable to have more life experience than me.

You don't respect a police officer you don't know as a person. You respect the uniform and the badge as trappings of the job's authority as an enforcer of the law.

If I seem rude to you, please call me on it gently.
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04-20-2013 10:44 PM

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"Respect is mutual, otherwise it is fear or obedience" - ..V.. - 04-15-2013, 02:52 PM

"Respect is mutual, otherwise it is fear or obedience" - brainiac3397 - 04-15-2013, 11:22 PM

"Respect is mutual, otherwise it is fear or obedience" - SoulRiser - 04-16-2013, 03:40 AM

RE: "Respect is mutual, otherwise it is fear or obedience" - Trekkie_Aspie - 04-20-2013 10:44 PM

"Respect is mutual, otherwise it is fear or obedience" - brainiac3397 - 04-17-2013, 12:47 AM

"Respect is mutual, otherwise it is fear or obedience" - Potato - 04-17-2013, 01:51 PM

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