My theory.

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My theory.

Like most human beings, there are certain things that I fear/do not look forward to. However, when those occurances happen, I end up wondering why I was scared/not looking forward to the event in the first place.

My theory, in uncomfortable situations, is that the anticipation of the event is more uncomfortable than the actual event.

This can also apply to postive scenarios. For example, Christmas Day. I've always looked forward to Christmas for various reasons, such as gifts, spending time with family, the whole spirit, etc. However, when the day in question comes, I end up enjoying it, but not as much as I enjoyed waiting for it. So in this case, the anticipation ends up being more fun than the event. To quote Lemmy, "The chase is better than the catch."

Don't know if this is a new theory or not, but I'm just putting it up there.

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