What are some of your most controversial opinions?

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Re: What are some of your most controversial opinions?

SoulRiser Wrote:The main problem I have is that people are going about the whole thing backwards. It's not love if you wanted to find "someone to be with" and then you find "someone", and then you somehow compel yourself to love them... no, that doesn't work. It's only really love if you weren't looking for it or expecting anything, and it just sort of randomly happened out of the blue. You can only love someone if you don't expect anything from them. And by 'love' I mean unconditionally, 'cause I don't consider any other "kind" of love to be valid. That's why dating is stupid. It gives love a bad name by branding it as something you "go out and find", not something that comes from inside you. It's like this. (Yep, I keep linking to that from everywhere. Maybe I should make it a Global Announcement too?)

Valid point, I'd have to agree. But what if someone just has a crush on that person and dates them to see if anything happens, and things, in a genuine unconditional sense, happen? And because it's true, when they get married, they don't get divorced because the 'flame isn't there' or something like that.

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09-21-2008 06:49 AM