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To everyone who joined these forums at some point, and got discouraged by the negativity and left after a while (or even got literally scared off): I'm sorry.

I wasn't good enough at encouraging people to be kinder, and removing people who refuse to be kind. Encouraging people is hard, and removing people creates conflict, and I hate conflict... so that's why I wasn't better at it.

I was a very, very sensitive teen. The atmosphere of this forum as it is now, if it had existed in 1996, would probably have upset me far more than it would have helped.

I can handle quite a lot of negativity and even abuse now, but that isn't the point. I want to help people. I want to help the people who need it the most, and I want to help people like the 1996 version of me.

I'm still figuring out the best way to do that, but as it is now, these forums are doing more harm than good, and I can't keep running them.

Thank you to the few people who have tried to understand my point of view so far. I really, really appreciate you guys. You are beautiful people.

Everyone else: If after everything I've said so far, you still don't understand my motivations, I think it's unlikely that you will. We're just too different. Maybe someday in the future it might make sense, but until then, there's no point in arguing about it. I don't have the time or the energy for arguing anymore. I will focus my time and energy on people who support me, and those who need help.

-SoulRiser

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  Thread: talking it out
Post: talking it out

If you correctly identify what's wrong with your abusive ex-family, you're that much less likely to copy those behaviours yourself. It's not only backbiting or wanting to tear them down; this instinct...
Rule_BreakerXVIII Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 2 7,339 06-27-2017, 02:48 AM
  Thread: RB18's log of random realizations
Post: RB18's log of random realizations

Survive Your Difficult Family By Being Smart Source for all the quotes above. Quote:There is no pill that can make family life easy. There is no pill that can spare you pain if one of your parents ...
Rule_BreakerXVIII Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 92 29,511 06-27-2017, 02:46 AM
  Thread: RB18's log of random realizations
Post: RB18's log of random realizations

Quote:Maybe we should look at what other, slimmer countries are doing. Look at France, which has the lowest child obesity rate in Europe. What are they feeding their kids for lunch? A four-course feas...
Rule_BreakerXVIII Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 92 29,511 06-22-2017, 02:40 AM
  Thread: RB18's log of random realizations
Post: RB18's log of random realizations

And the problem is, I knew. I knew that abuse can (and often does) cause trauma. And anxiety. And despite all that, some part of me was still going, "Nope! I'm fine, nothing to see here :D", and I be...
Rule_BreakerXVIII Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 92 29,511 06-20-2017, 03:01 AM
  Thread: RB18's log of random realizations
Post: RB18's log of random realizations

Quote:Toxic behavior doesn't just inflict a personal hurt. It assaults systemic well being. It generates stress and frustration at the crippling devaluation. It is deeply disturbing because, as it des...
Rule_BreakerXVIII Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 92 29,511 06-19-2017, 06:53 PM
  Thread: SAT Scores, and theCancer continues to be wrong
Post: SAT Scores, and theCancer continues to be wrong

Quote:But people are different and have different needs... should we ignore that, and insist on treating everyone exactly the same, and hold them to the same standards? I don't think that's what Anal...
Rule_BreakerXVIII School Talk 17 7,058 06-17-2017, 02:46 AM
  Thread: SAT Scores, and theCancer continues to be wrong
Post: SAT Scores, and theCancer continues to be wrong

About the potential thing... I know I have a certain capacity to do things; for example, I know I can paint, draw, art a reasonably good scenery, or trees or flowers. But I don't. I know I can play t...
Rule_BreakerXVIII School Talk 17 7,058 06-13-2017, 02:19 AM
  Thread: what does your name mean
Post: what does your name mean

My name means "Beauty of Spring". I had to google it just now.
Rule_BreakerXVIII General Talk 28 5,446 06-02-2017, 03:55 AM
  Thread: forced Child Marriages
Post: forced Child Marriages

Sorry about the typo :P I meant "car", not "cat".
Rule_BreakerXVIII Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 6 2,770 05-30-2017, 04:05 PM
  Thread: forced Child Marriages
Post: forced Child Marriages

Quote:“You can’t get a job, you can’t get a car, you can’t get a license, you can’t sign a lease,” she adds, “so why allow someone to marry when they’re still so young?” And here's the irony; IMO the...
Rule_BreakerXVIII Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 6 2,770 05-30-2017, 03:17 AM
  Thread: What was your sex-ed experience?
Post: What was your sex-ed experience?

We had a lesson in 10th grade science only about the biology of male and female reproductive systems. And in 9th all the girls were given a lecture about pads, periods, etc. Note that most people star...
Rule_BreakerXVIII School Talk 17 5,225 05-26-2017, 05:22 AM
  Thread: RB18's log of random realizations
Post: RB18's log of random realizations

Quote:Between 11 and 15 months, we learn a wonderful word: "No!" It's an ecstatic discovery. We learn we are separate, autonomous beings with a will of our own who can impact what happens in the worl...
Rule_BreakerXVIII Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 92 29,511 05-26-2017, 05:16 AM
  Thread: Inner Strength
Post: RE: Inner Strength

I didn't actually mean that as a slight to you or your parenting skills. Wtf is a 'chode' anyway? I found conflicting definitions on Google. Also I kinda get why Hans expressed such anti-masturbati...
Rule_BreakerXVIII Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 7 2,953 05-25-2017, 08:07 AM
  Thread: RB18's log of random realizations
Post: RB18's log of random realizations

Quote:I love myself. I am good at a whole bunch of different things. my parents neglected me, and in that sense I was partially unschooled. I knew who I was although part of that was affected by schoo...
Rule_BreakerXVIII Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 92 29,511 05-24-2017, 02:33 AM
  Thread: Parental Rights and Power.
Post: Parental Rights and Power.

Quote:In fact, they are forced to stay with their parents. So, how does this change the parents rights? Should parents have to give up their own inherent rights if they have kids, or is this a burden ...
Rule_BreakerXVIII Youth Rights 29 15,861 05-24-2017, 02:13 AM
  Thread: Inner Strength
Post: Inner Strength

Quote:but probably since I'm a strong IN personality type, ignoring what other people want of me or tell me has been pretty easy. anyway, I've pretty much NEVER had feelings of suicide, I definitely ...
Rule_BreakerXVIII Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 7 2,953 05-24-2017, 02:13 AM
  Thread: RB18's log of random realizations
Post: RB18's log of random realizations

First: This article. How Early Academic Training Retards Intellectual Development
Rule_BreakerXVIII Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 92 29,511 05-18-2017, 02:13 PM
  Thread: What's the stupidest rule at your school?
Post: What's the stupidest rule at your school?

Attendance and uniform rules. And the homework...UGH.
Rule_BreakerXVIII School Talk 23 5,856 05-14-2017, 04:00 AM
  Thread: Student Council
Post: RE: Student Council

(08-18-2009 02:11 AM)Fire Elf Wrote:  We don't get to choose our student council. The administration just goes and hand-picks the most hopelessly brainwashed kids in the whole school. Ours was ...
Rule_BreakerXVIII School Talk 20 3,231 05-14-2017, 03:55 AM
  Thread: RB18's log of random realizations
Post: RB18's log of random realizations

I found a nice phrase today: "emotional contagion". Quote:In my work as a psychotherapist specializing in intimacy and relationships, and in my own life journey, I've learned that one of the greatest...
Rule_BreakerXVIII Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 92 29,511 05-14-2017, 03:49 AM
  Thread: Why small talk?
Post: Why small talk?

It's allows us to assess of the other person, who is simultaneously assessing us :D Like. if OP mentions voting for Trump, racist, sexist or ageist attitudes, etc. in casual conversation, it's time t...
Rule_BreakerXVIII Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 18 5,625 05-07-2017, 12:57 AM
  Thread: Schools superintendent: Students are harming themselves and citing ’13 Reasons Why’
Post: Schools superintendent: Students are harming thems...

For fuck's sake. My sister watched that, and from what she told me it's mostly emotional blackmail, to put it bluntly. Also, kids may have watched the show and self-harmed, but there are probably oth...
Rule_BreakerXVIII News 8 1,943 05-05-2017, 02:44 AM
  Thread: This Photo Of A Sleeping Woman And Her Pizza Is Going Viral
Post: This Photo Of A Sleeping Woman And Her Pizza Is Go...

I don't get it.
Rule_BreakerXVIII News 4 1,278 05-05-2017, 02:41 AM
  Thread: "Respect your elders"
Post: "Respect your elders"

Usually, the only people who go "respect your elders!! HURR DURR" aren't demanding respect-they're demanding total obedience; ergo, assholes. I actually do respect quite a few older people. I just do...
Rule_BreakerXVIII Youth Rights 23 5,788 05-05-2017, 02:31 AM
  Thread: How is the food at your school?
Post: How is the food at your school?

There is no food. Kids get their own boxed lunch from home. I think this applies across most of India.
Rule_BreakerXVIII School Talk 107 39,951 05-03-2017, 02:47 AM
  Thread: Literally forcing homeworking
Post: RE: Literally forcing homeworking

(10-10-2007 02:02 AM)SoulRiser Wrote:  But yeah, college isn't like that. The one I was at didn't give two shits whether or not you did the work. They just give you a 0 if you don't. No big deal...
Rule_BreakerXVIII Youth Rights 31 8,627 04-27-2017, 01:19 AM
  Thread: 12 year old girl with autism "comes out" at school assembly
Post: 12 year old girl with autism "comes out" at school...

Sounds like it ended well for the girl.
Rule_BreakerXVIII News 2 2,078 04-27-2017, 01:15 AM
  Thread: RB18's log of random realizations
Post: RB18's log of random realizations

Turdette's version of caring is this: push, push, push, push, ad infinitum. She pushes her care onto people whether they want it or not. And often, the best way to shut her up is a solid boot to the f...
Rule_BreakerXVIII Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 92 29,511 04-25-2017, 11:15 PM
  Thread: Will You Come Back Here After Your Out?
Post: Will You Come Back Here After Your Out?

Been out of school for 4 years, and I'm still here.
Rule_BreakerXVIII School Talk 42 9,852 04-25-2017, 10:57 PM
  Thread: The Indignities of Being Young
Post: The Indignities of Being Young

Quote:from a care-free, fun-loving child into a suspicious, angry adult That's me. That's me alright.
Rule_BreakerXVIII School Talk 23 6,503 04-25-2017, 10:55 PM
  Thread: A professor who knows school is dumb?
Post: A professor who knows school is dumb?

The problem is, that while a lot of people are aware of this they do nothing about it. They either don't recognize the scale on which school (and its substandard, mediocre approach to learning) affect...
Rule_BreakerXVIII School Talk 32 8,398 04-23-2017, 04:08 AM
  Thread: what's the worst bullying you've seen
Post: what's the worst bullying you've seen

Once, a girl threatened to hang herself if one of my friends stopped talking to her. The same girl and I had a heated row a few years back, tho we stooped speaking to each other. I took this info str...
Rule_BreakerXVIII School Talk 30 8,637 04-23-2017, 04:05 AM
  Thread: Is porn really that good?
Post: Is porn really that good?

There is porn, and there is erotica. Most good erotica I've found is in the text format - not videos, images, etc. Like any media, there is good stuff, and there is talk-bump-hump-go stuff; the good...
Rule_BreakerXVIII Philosophy, Politics & History 35 11,005 04-16-2017, 01:34 AM
  Thread: Feeling compassion toward your enemies...
Post: Feeling compassion toward your enemies...

I can somewhat relate to this; I want to defeat the Turds(for the lack of a better term; I don't want them in my life, but they're not gonna back down quietly) but i don't want to become a Turd while ...
Rule_BreakerXVIII Best of School Survival 29 23,061 04-14-2017, 05:38 PM
  Thread: What to do if school makes you depressed and/or suicidal
Post: RE: What to do if school makes you depressed and/o...

Not to mention more brainwashing and emotional manipulation. They flat out say shit like "You're only feeling this way because you disobeyed our authority."
Rule_BreakerXVIII School Talk 36 15,205 04-09-2017, 07:04 AM
  Thread: RB18's log of random realizations
Post: RE: RB18's log of random realizations

(04-01-2017 01:07 AM)the Analogist Wrote:  in the context of my wife's (Indian) family, the fact that they frequently want her to spend a week in Chicago with the kids while I work downstate wit...
Rule_BreakerXVIII Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 92 29,511 04-06-2017, 01:33 AM
  Thread: Official School Survival Book?
Post: You guys you guys you guys

A guide on just surviving school? Or more? The internet has a lot of guides, useful tips, etc. on a whole range of topics. So far, I've collected the links I found in one place so they're easier to a...
Rule_BreakerXVIII School Talk 53 14,814 03-31-2017, 07:55 PM
  Thread: Brainwashing and how to avoid it
Post: Brainwashing and how to avoid it

Heartless bitches International has a good list too. They delve into man-hating more than a few times tho... The red flag list Two more lists And their Manipulator files.
Rule_BreakerXVIII Youth Rights 3 1,978 03-31-2017, 04:04 AM
  Thread: Brainwashing and how to avoid it
Post: Brainwashing and how to avoid it

Quote:1. Decrypt media spin. The media uses many different tools and angles to sensationalize things that aren’t inherently sensational. “Experts generally agree” can mean a community college profess...
Rule_BreakerXVIII Youth Rights 3 1,978 03-31-2017, 03:56 AM
  Thread: I wish I could go back to high school ....
Post: I wish I could go back to high school ....

NO. No. NO. NONONONONONONONO. School was a time when I had to depend on my parents for transport, food, even hair-styling and music. So, yeah. Apart from the usual cringeyness of school, there are a...
Rule_BreakerXVIII School Talk 23 7,546 03-31-2017, 03:38 AM
  Thread: RB18's log of random realizations
Post: RB18's log of random realizations

Quote:Once upon a time, I used to enjoy physics, chemistry, history.... I used to borrow books from upperclassmen and read through them, often instead of my own 'studies'. All my enthusiasm drained ou...
Rule_BreakerXVIII Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 92 29,511 03-25-2017, 08:54 PM
  Thread: Does school hold back potential ability?
Post: Does school hold back potential ability?

School makes one dread learning, and over time this translates to an instinctive flinch at the thought of learning anything at all. Like, children naturally take joy in learning, figuring out things,...
Rule_BreakerXVIII Youth Rights 39 9,061 03-25-2017, 08:26 PM
  Thread: Serious Talk - Self Responsibility
Post: Serious Talk - Self Responsibility

"The Secret Garden" had a similar effect on me, though the point is more subtly made in that book. Also Paulo Cohelo's "The Alchemist". Well said.
Rule_BreakerXVIII Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 5 2,728 03-21-2017, 12:23 AM
  Thread: A Masochistic Stroll Down Memory Lane
Post: A Masochistic Stroll Down Memory Lane

Eehhh...I think you should read your old posts and ramblings. I have diaries, poems, etc. going back to 6th grade, and while it's cringe-worthy to read at times, I feel more connected to the person I ...
Rule_BreakerXVIII General Talk 8 2,517 03-18-2017, 07:19 PM
  Thread: Things you did in school.
Post: Things you did in school.

I got caught with cell phones and books a lot; mostly b/c I read them during class. I ditched quite a bit, but as I was discreet and just left school and went somewhere else, I didn't get caught much....
Rule_BreakerXVIII School Talk 27 8,348 03-18-2017, 07:03 PM
  Thread: Aspbergers & Meyers Briggs
Post: Aspbergers & Meyers Briggs

Quote:Your neurodiverse (Aspie) score: 89 of 200 Your neurotypical (non-autistic) score: 126 of 200 You are very likely neurotypical I'm an INTP.
Rule_BreakerXVIII Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 10 3,466 03-18-2017, 06:58 PM
  Thread: RB18's log of random realizations
Post: RB18's log of random realizations

I believe that people have power, like that charisma thing I mentioned. I don't believe in astrology, or god, etc. That sort of thing has power because people think it does. All religions are fair, j...
Rule_BreakerXVIII Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 92 29,511 03-17-2017, 02:04 AM
  Thread: Hair dye rules
Post: Hair dye rules

IMO it's another way to exercise control and dominance over young people; just like uniforms, cell phone rules and so on. A reasonable dress code can be useful, or even beneficial, but school rules ar...
Rule_BreakerXVIII School Talk 32 19,661 03-14-2017, 02:12 AM
  Thread: RB18's log of random realizations
Post: RB18's log of random realizations

Quote:Adulthood isn't an award they'll give you for being a good child. You can waste... years, trying to get someone to give that respect to you, as though it were a sort of promotion or raise in pay...
Rule_BreakerXVIII Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 92 29,511 03-14-2017, 02:07 AM
  Thread: RB18's log of random realizations
Post: RB18's log of random realizations

Quote: I am not controlled by people who have emotional issues which they do not resolve, and fight against even the notion of sanity. I am not controlled by people who think it is okay to foist off ...
Rule_BreakerXVIII Psychology - Life, Love & Learning 92 29,511 03-06-2017, 05:37 AM

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