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Dreams Regarding The Opposite Gender - UnicornLionWolf - 06-25-2016 04:23 PM

I've had odd dreams of encountering girls.

One involved going to Macau (never been to China before, much less Macau, don't even plan on going to that particular Chinese city) and I ended up seeing the girl I liked in 3rd grade there. She was Japanese, not Chinese though. I don't know if it matters.

Another dream involved being with my mom and encountering some Japanese girl I never met before in real life, and she asked my mom if we used some Internet service provider that was popular with Chinese because my mom is part Chinese.

Yet another time I met a Chinese girl with a pretty face but weird feet.

Why are they all Asian? Am I subconsciously racist? I hope not.


RE: Dreams Regarding The Opposite Gender - no - 06-26-2016 03:55 AM

Don't worry. Everyone is subconsciously racist.


Dreams Regarding The Opposite Gender - Alistoriv - 06-26-2016 08:02 AM

doesn't necessarily mean you're racist, just might have a thing for chinese grills Wink


Dreams Regarding The Opposite Gender - SoulRiser - 06-26-2016 08:37 AM

I think being racist and being attracted to people of a specific race is not really the same thing. The one is negative and the other is positive, sort of...

Or maybe these dreams are being caused by a specific Japanese person you may have liked in the past. Razz


RE: Dreams Regarding The Opposite Gender - UnicornLionWolf - 06-26-2016 03:26 PM

(06-26-2016 08:37 AM)SoulRiser Wrote:  I think being racist and being attracted to people of a specific race is not really the same thing. The one is negative and the other is positive, sort of...

Or maybe these dreams are being caused by a specific Japanese person you may have liked in the past. Razz

So...I shouldn't be too worried?

I actually do have Asian blood on my mother's side...Filipino and Chinese though. I wonder if that's a factor.


RE: Dreams Regarding The Opposite Gender - UnicornLionWolf - 06-26-2016 03:41 PM

(06-26-2016 08:02 AM)Alistoriv Wrote:  doesn't necessarily mean you're racist, just might have a thing for chinese grills Wink

My sister thinks I'm into Asian girls in general because I watch Jpop and Kpop...I guess she's right. Ironically I don't really like the idea of having a thing for a particular race.


RE: Dreams Regarding The Opposite Gender - the Analogist - 06-27-2016 06:52 AM

(06-26-2016 03:41 PM)UnicornLionWolf Wrote:  I don't really like the idea of having a thing for a particular race.

Are you worried that it is some form of objectification?

I feel like objectification is not a recognition that certain qualities are attractive to you, but to go an extra step and say that since those qualities are present there is no need to respect the person. Very different things.

Even then, I feel the inclination to objectify quite regularly. I find it advantageous that I can't/don't take attractive women seriously since, if I did, the only benefit would be that I interact in some positive way with an attractive woman. My wife would rightfully be pissed I think.

Rather than worry about our nature being corrupt or something, I like the idea that we simply take on habits to accommodate our nature. This is why both my wife and I choose to be Muslim because it makes sense from that standpoint. She doesn't mingle with guys nor I with girls. She covers herself up to conceal her body so more imagination is needed for those inclined to think of her that way when they see her. I too dress modestly. Temptation will exist, fight it a little, but mostly avoid tempting situations so you don't have to fight it.


RE: Dreams Regarding The Opposite Gender - UnicornLionWolf - 06-27-2016 02:57 PM

(06-27-2016 06:52 AM)the Analogist Wrote:  
(06-26-2016 03:41 PM)UnicornLionWolf Wrote:  I don't really like the idea of having a thing for a particular race.

Are you worried that it is some form of objectification?

I feel like objectification is not a recognition that certain qualities are attractive to you, but to go an extra step and say that since those qualities are present there is no need to respect the person. Very different things.

Even then, I feel the inclination to objectify quite regularly. I find it advantageous that I can't/don't take attractive women seriously since, if I did, the only benefit would be that I interact in some positive way with an attractive woman. My wife would rightfully be pissed I think.

Rather than worry about our nature being corrupt or something, I like the idea that we simply take on habits to accommodate our nature. This is why both my wife and I choose to be Muslim because it makes sense from that standpoint. She doesn't mingle with guys nor I with girls. She covers herself up to conceal her body so more imagination is needed for those inclined to think of her that way when they see her. I too dress modestly. Temptation will exist, fight it a little, but mostly avoid tempting situations so you don't have to fight it.

I wasn't really worried about objectification to be honest. We should treat each other with respect and not as objects, though.

My concern was that such a tendency might limit one's options in a way that isn't helpful. I mean, good people exist in every race.

I find it interesting that we can take on habits to accommodate our nature. I suppose I should look for ways to do that.


RE: Dreams Regarding The Opposite Gender - the Analogist - 06-27-2016 07:26 PM

You will love your wife if she has what matters most to you. Even if she doesn't look the hottest thing ever, she won't, thats not the point. Learning to ignore women who aren't your wife helps you to more properly appreciate her for who she is.

Dont look to the one with more money, look to the one with less. The same applies to women. A good habit to appreciate what you have is to remember that having it is better than not.


RE: Dreams Regarding The Opposite Gender - UnicornLionWolf - 06-29-2016 06:09 AM

(06-28-2016 08:21 AM)Joker Wrote:  A common phase for teenage boys... you subconciously lust for Asian women because they are (seemingly) submissive, pure, and mystical.

I don't really buy into the stereotype though...considering I've Asian heritage on my mom's side...