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RE: Polyamory - Heil_Kaiba8921 - 12-05-2012 08:36 AM

quick question...Who, when first reading this thread, thought about Mormons?

Polyamory - HeartoftheNorth - 12-10-2012 11:12 AM

I support it, as long as everyone in the relationship is aware of and okay with it.

Polyamory - timf - 12-18-2012 07:41 AM

Polyamoury requires supplemental definition. For example, almost everyone who has every seen a movie or read a book or a magazine is familiar with the term "falling in love". What is often described is a bundle of emotions that can include desire, anticipation, speculation, and even erotic arousal. If one defines these sensations as "love", you have to consider that people are going to be falling into and out of "love" all the time. There would be overlap, however multiple sources of this stimulation would be difficult to maintain simultaneously. Emotional stimulation has some similarity to narcotic or alcohol stimulation in that more intense and frequent stimuli can often be required to produce the same effect.

If one considers "love" something higher and involving aspects of self-sacrifice and self-denial, you can find for example a mother that can love both her child and her husband. In this realm of higher living lies greater concern for and sensitivity to others.

I was in Europe once listening to a man tell me how stupid Americans were for not following the European tradition of having a mistress. I asked him if he felt that under the most optimum circumstances, his system would result in at least one person being hurt. He acknowledged, that usually at least one person was hurt. I asked him how a system whose optimum results were only 67% could be called successful.

Polyamory - SoulRiser - 12-18-2012 08:15 AM

And how did he respond to that?

RE: Polyamory - timf - 12-19-2012 04:03 AM

Quote:And how did he respond to that?

I had the distinct impression that he was more interested in instructing me than a search for truth.

RE: Polyamory - SoulRiser - 12-19-2012 05:53 AM

(12-19-2012 04:03 AM)timf Wrote:  I had the distinct impression that he was more interested in instructing me than a search for truth.

Ah yes. I don't generally enjoy conversations with people like that.

RE: Polyamory - James Comey - 07-03-2015 07:30 AM

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I remember reading this thread back in 2013 and I thought this was my thing. I mean polyamory sounded amazing... I mean you get to love more than one person! I thought it was just that simple... you can fall in love with more than one person, but after being in a relationship where I was cheated on, and having discovered many new people and ideas, I've learned that the idea of Polyamory is a lot more complex than just "I like 2 people" or "I want to have sex with many people"... for many people, this is what life really is like... and coming to terms with it, for me, was slightly difficult.

To have feelings with more than a single person is a bit difficult to describe... I mean one thing I feel when I think of spending my life with one person is not necessarily happiness but rather guilt... I feel when I dedicate myself to one person, I feel like I'm shutting myself away from the world, and I'm not giving my love to those that deserve it as well. And love to me is not just sexual love; but it also means compassion, respect, empathy, adventure, etc... and for me, the idea of giving it to just one person just feels strange. The idea of polyamory is not just rooted in simply loving more than one person, but it also has to do with what we feel love truly is; to me, the meaning of love was always made confusing to me, especially when I wasn't comfortable with the idea of my own sexual orientation, and I wasn't aware of the LGBTS spectrum.

For me, the idea of simply talking about love and my orientation is liberating; it gives me comfort when I wasn't the one that was wrong, but rather it was society at large. For me, it explains why I've constantly failed in closed mono-amorous dating relationships; it really isn't just for me. I suppose love is quite abstract, and it is what we make of it. For those in "normal" relationships, be free and enjoy them, because it would be pretentious for me to criticize it. It's just that I really can't feel for one person... I need more than one. Realizing my polyamory was liberating... I felt I didn't need to be constrained to these social norms anymore, I could truly "be".

That's what I have to say about this old thread. Good stuff, good stuff.

RE: Polyamory - AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA - 07-12-2016 01:45 PM

I have been in love with multiple people at one time. :-| Um...and it varies ages....Now, I don't love them anymore. (Which is fucking good because I can't date them :-| It will be weird and not fun, because its strange, the people i loved, we didnt have things to do in common that we like )... Is it bad being in love with multiple people at once? What does it say of me?

Polyamory - SoulRiser - 07-13-2016 05:59 AM

There's nothing wrong with loving any number of people at the same time. Being in love with them however can be distracting/problematic/confusing/complicated though. Still, I wouldn't say it's bad as long as you're OK with it. There's nothing wrong with it.

Polyamory - brainiac3397 - 07-13-2016 10:15 AM

Plz if I can have more than business I can have more than one wife. Keep teh gubament out of my bedrooms.

Polyamory - James Comey - 03-19-2017 03:36 PM

Years later I'm still kinda toying around with this stuff.

Redemption is a bitch my friend.

Polyamory - Avatar Korra - 03-20-2017 03:40 AM

The answers to most polyamory questions: